His lifestyle has made an significant change and now wants to be apart of his kids life. It's been over 7 yrs since he has seen them.
Is there a delicate way he can approach the other parent.
How can he find them?
2006-09-05 17:09:53 · 8 answers · asked by Chitea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unless the mother indicated that there was abuse and her and the childrens life was in danger, he can get the info from the court where the court order was filed. He should try to contact the childrens mother first and explain to her that his life has changed and that he wants to be a part of the kids lives. He needs to understand that it will take her some time and he needs to be understanding and patient with her and the kids. If she refuses then he needs to get a lwayer and file a petition for vsitation. He needs to understand that he cant just jump back into their lives, he needs to take it slow go at the kids pace. Start by talking on the phone, sending letters, cards, and pics. He needs to be prepared with what he is going to say to them about why he has missed the last 7 years. He should be honest but keep it simple. Your role is to be supportive of him and should probably let the first few visits be just him and the kids (you know..so its not too much at first). I really hope everything works out for him and the kids.
2006-09-05 17:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all he need to find out if after all of those year if his children want him to be a part of their life and he can do that by making contact with his ex. He'll need to make a convincing case. 7 years is a long time. if he really wanted to be in their life he would have at least had visitation rights ordered by the courts. his ex handled her business by getting child support. If he thought it was important enough to him he would've had a court order to see them. If he's going to be in their life then he has to take it slow because his children will not trust him at least in the beginning. Start with asking his ex to talk with her children to see how they feel.
2006-09-05 17:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by deecharming 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visitation has to be court ordered. It's separate from child support. Once visitation is ordered by the judge, his ex has to do what the judge ordered in court. Try to locate any family members that might know where they are. Maybe write a letter to the ex and explain the situation.
2006-09-05 17:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by valerie t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on search.com and try to locate them.. then go to court and get the paper work to get visitation. They may have you go to a family counselor for a while to get acquainted again with the kids and get some suppressed emotions out.. but its worth it.. and you wont regret it. Your ex may need the break as well.. don't anticipate a fight.. get in there..
2006-09-05 17:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only has to see a lawyer or a judge to file a motion for visitation.
2006-09-05 17:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the internet..... and seek the advice of a good lawyer first...... he has to prove himself so do NOT think this will be easy...... the mom will probably resent the dad for walking into the childrens lives....... but him paying support all these years may be his saving grace......... so good luck and God bless
2006-09-05 17:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should start off by getting a good lawyer and going from there.
2006-09-05 18:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to court.
2006-09-05 17:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋