Okay so I got back with my ex-fiance and he treated me like **** so I broke it off for the second time. And now he wants to try and make things work for the third time...keep in mine that we are planning to take things slow this time. And keep in mine that we both messed up not just him.
2006-09-05 16:48:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you do that?
There are so many choices out there, why would you waste your time?
2006-09-05 16:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this happened to me. If the person is genuinely, truly sorry for what they did it could work. But you have to watch them after that, and if you see them doing something that reminds you of the time when they were cheating, then ask questions and be persistent about it, until you feel you have heard the truth. I would bring it up alot and i had to stop doing that. You have to go on with your life and make every day like a new day. Oh, yeah and if you did anything tell them about that too, just so they will know that you are capable of doing the same thing, and they will rethink doing it to you.
2006-09-05 16:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound like a healthy relationship. When people develop a pattern of cheating on one another, it is hard to break. I wish you all the best but maybe there some issues you both need to work out before you get back into a relationship so that you can be fully committed.
2006-09-05 16:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am trying to figure out the exact same thing right now, and I know - it is a tough call. You love the person, but you just keep thinking "how could they do this to me." If I figure it out, I will let you know. It is easy for people to say "don't trust them, they are no good for you." But you don't want to hear that, even if it's flat out true. To be honest, what I would do is date other people while you see him again. Don't limit yourself this time.
2006-09-05 16:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Rainbrain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you broke up for a reason. If it was going to work it would have happened the first time around. You need to admit to yourself that it was not meant to be if you have to work that hard at a relationship it's not really a relationship is it. You need to move on with your life. Sounds harsh but it will save you a lot of tears and heart ache.
2006-09-05 16:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by emaleiluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
straight the f**k up...once a cheater always a cheater and those who say they will never do it again are probably not telling the truth. If you know you can get away with it why not do it? You're better off with out him because the trust will never be there no matter how hard he tries. Take this from personal experience.
2006-09-05 16:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by christi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he treated you like **** then why you stil with him in the first place..and he hceated on you.. thats the worst if i were you i would be looking for way other fish in the side of the sea...he cheated and thats not gonna change....i probably would understand that you love him but think what kind of a person your'e loving .he played you..
2006-09-05 17:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by FAVIOLA L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why try with someone that doesn't have any respect for you. life is to short to be unhappy. im saying this to you because you don't want to be in your 40's and wondering why you put up with a person cheating especially if you know for sure. love doesn't hurt and thats the truth.
2006-09-05 17:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Becky M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can but it takes time and hard work but if u really love each other its wroth the try but i one or the other dont really love than its not goin to work u both have to be in it 100% to make it work
2006-09-05 16:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by OceanBlue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems you two have a very codependent relationship... maybe you are afraid that you won't find whatever you are looking for and so you settled (both of you)... then again... they do say the third time's the charm... i wonder how true that is! guess you're about to find out...
2006-09-05 17:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ebony B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will...trust is a easy thing to get at first, but once it is lost it is very hard to find!
2006-09-05 16:53:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋