how do i find where the fine line & boundries is?

Question

every person i speak to that has kids 10&7 like i do they talk of drawing the line n setting boundries , how do i find the boundries n fine line

Answer 1

The line or boundary is the point at which you decide that you have to do something about the kids behavior. I have two toddlers ages one and three and they know where there boundaries are and live well within them. It's all about the discipline, you have to be willing to do it even though it's not any fun at all and you have to follow through on what you say will happen in your "or else" statement (I know we all make them). I have made the mistake of saying an "or else" and then not wanting to follow through on it but if you don't your kids will have nothing to back up any reason to listen to you. Trust me I am the step-mom of a 15 year old who never had any discipline and that's why I am very strict with my babies. The line must be drawn and they have to know where the boundary is, if not for your sanity for their own comfort in their lives. I truly believe that kids look for boundaries just to be able to be comfortable with what is around them. I hope this helps and clears it up a little, at least from my point of view.

Answer 2

Unfortunately the "kine and boundaries" varies by family. What make be unacceptable to me may not be that bad to you. You know what is and what is not acceptable, the basics, no lying, stealing, cheating, hitting etc. At 10 & 7 I am guessing that the boundries would have to be phine priveleges, over nite slumber parties. Our house rule is....No going to ANY friend house until I have met the friend , their parents and I go with you ( at least at first ) 2. No friends over or phoine calls until all the homework and house work/chores are DONE and checked. As a parent you need to determine what you will and will not acept. Remember your kids are still young and you need to provide good guide lines for them. Providing them with to many priveleges at this young of an age will only create bigger problems for you down the road. Once you have determined the "lines and boundries: discuss them at length with your kids. Make sure they understand them. That way if they break them they can't use the excise that they didn't understand the rules. Good luck. Sometimes parenting is by trail and error, I support to err on the safe side!

Answer 3

If you are the parent YOU should be the one setting them. As a parent YOU are in charge, YOU are responsible for every action your child makes...YOU set the boundaries. YOU decide what is and is not acceptable.

Answer 4

you are the parent you set the rules of what is acceptable behavior for each child with general guidelines all are bound by and age specific guidelines for each child according to their needs and circumstances you know them best and you know what conduct you accept and what you dont make rules and stick to them and as they mature you can add to them ie what you cant do at 5 you can do at ten and what you cant do at ten you can do at 17 ect ie curfews bed times priveledges ect hope this helps Gorbalizer

Answer 5

get a baby