I've been friends with a beautiful divorced woman with kids for about 4 years. Within the last 2 months, we have been talking on the phone a little and text messaging quite a bit. We've met for dinner 3 times now. When we first started "dating" I told her that I didn't want anything to happen to our friendship no matter what. I recently told her that I am attracted to her but she will not reveal her feelings back to me. And now, she hasn't written me back on text messages as much as she used to and she rarely takes my calls. In some ways I think I should forget her but I still get the feeling she wants to keep me hanging on because she has never told me to bug off, and she seems to communicate with me just enough to keep me around. Am I blind to the truth because I love her? Why won't she just tell me to leave her alone if that's what she wants? Do women usually tell guys to stop calling, asking them out, etc or do they just kinda ignore them when they are ready to move on?
2006-09-05 16:29:58 · 7 answers · asked by CKApple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe she is afraid that if she lets her feelings out she''l end up hurt and wind up left alone or in a bad relationship.i think that once a women has been hurt physically/emotionally it takes alot of mending and recovery time for her to get over it. she has to build back up a trust for others especially guys.
2006-09-05 16:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by mommyarii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times a woman won't just tell you to bug off because they don't want to hurt your feelings. Step back and let her initiate the next move. Be direct if you love her and sit down to have a heart-to-heart with her so you know where you stand with her. If she has no intention of ever having a romantic relationship with you and that's what you want, then you need to move on.
2006-09-05 23:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As for her it is truly unknown... women are different on the way they react. You are not blind to the truth, you want an answer so just ask her... I know for me I don't like someone hiding behind the bushes about something.... If you seek an answer ask her... text her and ask her what you want to know... but accept the answer she gives you because you are asking... anyways, good luck to you... p.s. she is divorced so she might just be timid about getting hurt again.
2006-09-05 23:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by clover_t21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi divorcees could have been through a lot. Just text her that if you came on too strong, if she's not ready yet, or if she justs wants it back to stricktly friends that you would understand. Also, just tell her that you are being up front with her and that she has nothing to fear if she changes her mind about dating, that you would just like to know what her expectations are. Good luck!
2006-09-05 23:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is scared of having another bad relationship as it didn't work out with her husband. We, women are hoping that men will get the subtext but most of the time they don't. I am very happy that you have those nice feelings towards her and my best advice would be for you to tell her what you feel, and see where it goes. Don't be scared to tell her that, because anyways she knows that you are interested in her but she is scared to be hurt again. Hope it works, and best of luck
2006-09-05 23:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We women normally just disappear. I think that maybe she has a problem of trusting you and you really took her by surprise when you dropped the bomb.
2006-09-05 23:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop calling her and see if she calls you. furthermore, let her call you from now on.
2006-09-05 23:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by xknyghtmayre 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋