my boyfriend keeps pressuring me inot having sex wiht him since we already have phone sex and all but i want it to be special is that stupid? i mean i have been with him for a month is that to soon ?
2006-09-05 16:18:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask, it is too soon. Don't do it if you aren't ready.
2006-09-05 16:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should hold out for love. The first time should be special and if he is pressuring you, he is being selfish and not considering your feelings. Sex increases the intensity of a relationship and can make a woman feel as if she is falling in love. Also, you always have to think of safety--condoms or a clean bill of health. There is really no set time....could be a week, could be a year. The time is right when you feel like you cannot wait any longer.
2006-09-05 16:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There used to be this little "poem" that I read on bathroom walls when I was younger. I can't remember if this is the exact wording, but it goes something like this:
I met him then I liked him,
I liked him then I loved him,
I loved him then I let him,
I let him then he left me.
Such a silly little thing, but it has stayed with me for all this time. In my experience, the only guys that pressure you for sex are the ones that only want you for sex. A month is nothing. 30 days. You have every right to not only want it to be special, but demand it to be. Don't sell yourself short.
2006-09-05 16:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're right - if you're questioning whether or not you're ready, then ur not ready. Wait until you find the right guy, the guy who you're totally comfterable with - wait untill you fall in love... It makes it 100 times better when you're with the person you can't live without. If he's pressuring you into it, then I'd say he's bad news. When the time is right, and you're with the right person, there will be no question as to whether your ready or not - you'll just know.
2006-09-05 16:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you a virgin? These are important pieces of information. I'm a guy and I can tell you that most guys are first and foremost driven by the conquest of having sex with girls. Please keep in mind that GIRLS HAVE ALL THE POWER. If you can remember that and value yourself and what you want you will be a much happier person. If he leaves you simply because you aren't ready, he only wanted to sleep with you to begin with. Is that what you are looking for?
2006-09-05 16:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by jason n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its to soon it sounds to me like that is all he wants and after he either gets you pregnant or gets all he wants he will leave you. And you will be broken hearted on top of it. Tell him your waiting until you get married and if he can't except that then you need to go your seperate ways because thats all he is wanting from you is sex. And stop having phone sex with him. I also bet he is cheating on you.
2006-09-05 16:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by bucksolutions1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a month is too soon. my boyfriend and I have been going out for four months today and we haven't done anything, so he says. He pressures me, too; but he's also patient. Do not lose your virginity for any reason.
2006-09-05 16:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by melomane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE LL yeah it's too soon. You only get one chance to give up your virginity make sure it's special and not something you're ashamed of later or regret. If he can't wait dump his @ ss!
2006-09-05 16:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lady G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commonplace is masturbation, many women do this, why i have a friend that excercises herself atleast four times a day, as for your question, Your not ready, and he shouldn't be pressuring you, if he keeps it up, contact me.
2006-09-05 16:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Tristram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him pressuring you is kind of a red flag. You are ready when you are ready and he really doesn't have a say in that.
2006-09-05 16:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning it then you aren't ready and it's to soon. There is no need to rush. It is better to wait and be ready.
2006-09-05 16:21:42 · answer #11 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋