I have been living with my sister for two years now; it has been really good - and bad sometimes. I am beginning to think she has pathological liar, which may sound a bit crazy - but I have caught her in a few huge lies, and I have yet to reveal this to her. I love my sister to death but I think she may be holding me back from my real self because I am always worried about her. I have not told my parents about this either because they are both alcoholics and don't deal with stuff so great. What do ya think? Thanks for taking your time
2006-09-05 16:13:54 · 19 answers · asked by created4something 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
u have to work on getting urself together and out of that house.u cant help someone who continuously lies to u.get urself together than u can help her from afar so its not a burden on u.talk 2 her about honesty and tell how much it means 2 you
2006-09-05 16:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by nena5271 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront your sister. I know its hard but until you do nothing will change. If she just gets defensive and puts it back in your face dont worry that is probably the reaction you'll get and perfectly normal especially coming from a liar. That is their perfect defense mechanism and they use it well. Its up to you to stay strong and dont let her do this. if she pushes you away this will probably be her second defense, at the very least you've confronted her and you showed her you care, she may not see that right away but she'll get it. By not confronting her it will only get worse as time goes by. It may be tough at first but you must let her know how you feel because any relationship no matter what it is works both ways, and it cant always be on you to alleviate the situation. Communication is the key to every relationship and the only way people learn is thru faults and by pointing out those faults (in the best manner possible) is the only way your relationship with her will improve. Try it and stay strong, you're in the right here.
2006-09-05 16:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Murfdigidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have the means to live by yourself, call her out on a couple of her lies and let her know that telling you lies is not something you can allow. Tell her to change or you will leave.
Sorry about your parents. I wish you all the best and will pray for you.
2006-09-05 16:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to worry about your own business. And she is only a pathological liar if the lies she tells is for no reason other than liying.
2006-09-05 16:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is tough having alcoholic parents. I might be a pathalogical liar too if i had parents like that. You need to catch her in her lies and ask her why she feels she needs to lie to you. tell her That you love her just the way she is.
2006-09-05 16:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too lived with my sister for about 2 years. She didn't have a problem with lying but we definitely didn't get along. My dad is an alcoholic as well. My advice to you... living with a sibling is usually a bad idea.
2006-09-05 16:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her that you have caught her in some lies. You should ask her if she is hiding something or what her reason is for the lies. Offer to help her to seek some help for her problems.
2006-09-05 16:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's well worth the effort to sit down with your sister and discuss the matter. Get it out in the open. Maybe she will see the light and try to change.
2006-09-05 16:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Joeybirdie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, how are you DOING? OK,, first you need to MOVE OUT> get out of this situation,, you're feeling guilty , and you want to protect her, no,, leave her alone,, you need to look out for NUMERO UNO YOU!,, IF you wait and say I'll wait to see what happens,, BAD IDEA,, the time is now,,OK,,this is like being in a relationship that has no end,, A DEAD END RELATIONSHIP..,, SO yeah! you need to loOK out for you.. and start your life,, RIGHT NOW,, do not wait.. ok,, PRAY ABOUT THIS, and seek to the LORD to really guide you every step of the way.. but PRAY AND GIVE IT TO THE LORD.. he will answer you,,
2006-09-05 16:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by litehmusicdj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit "enabling" her lies...call her on it when you find out a lie.
have a talk with her and make it easy- ask her why she felt it was necessary to lie to you. Tell her you want a healthy relationship with her and that you want to be able to TRUST her and vice-versa. Ask her what she needs from YOU to be able to be honest.
that's all you can do for now...
2006-09-05 16:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋