At what point is one's virginity lost? And is it lost at different stage for a man then it is for a woman?

Question

Is it lost by holding hands? Kissing? Touching genital areas? Manual sex? Oral sex? Anal sex? Or Vaginal sex? I mean at what point can one not be considered a virgin?

And is it different for a man then it is for a women? Like if a man is having anal sex with a woman and before they are both virgins do they both lose their virginity, do they both still have it, or does one lose it and the other keep it.

I know that this is a little confusing but I just need some opinions, I know that there is no real answer to these questions and that it is all a matter of opinion.

Please answer these questions fully, and please do not answer with “If you have to ask then you are too young to know” or anything like that, I am in my mid twenties and I already have my own opinion about this I just want to know what some other people think.

Answer 1

Traditionally, you must have had sex in a way that breaks the hymen to lose virginity. But in fact that was merely a way to tell if intercourse had occurred, as the act of intercourse was actually where the line was drawn. Anal intercourse probably does count, just as intercourse with a condom counts. Being entered in some fashion by a penis was one of the initial no-nos that was required of a true virgin.

Many think oral intercourse doesn't count, but again if the intent is to have sex while avoiding the chance of pregnancy, and a penis is significantly gobbled, this way of engaging in intercourse is still considered as detrimental to a claim of virginity in western cultures.

Answer 2

OK sometime last summer i had to do some jury duty where this guy who was married and him and his wife were into adopting kids they had 4 of them sound like good people right well she was but the man was not he got the 15 yo girl pregnant now we had to sit on the bench for 6 days listening to all sorts of crap but i did learn something i learned that intercourse is defined buy when the penis passes the outer lips of the vagina in a court of law so what they were saying is as soon as the outer lips of the vagina part just a fraction of a inch buy the penis you are having intercourse to answer your question i say due to these terms as soon as a man presses his penis into your vagina no matter how far you are no longer a virgin because being a virgin is just a state of mind there is nothing medical about it

Answer 3

Virginity is pure and untuched. It would mean what ever you do with each other that is unpure. Yes you might think that sex is pure, but it's not ment like that. If you were kissing and it was a pure kiss that means that it was just the thought in your mind. If you start kissing and fondling and start thinking of things that you would like to do. that is unpure. I think that if a man touches you in a way and you are both thinking of that even if he just touches you in your place. Now you are not untouched and unpure anymore. It has nothing to do with anything being poped. If you are touched by an unpure mind in your place, that you have lost your virginaty...

Answer 4

Virginity is largely a state of mind. You know it when you've lost it, although you may be trying to convince yourself otherwise. I'm not saying that individuals decide when they lose their virginity, they just kind of know when they have/haven't if they are honest.

There are obviously stages of sexual experience, but that is really blurry.

Answer 5

a persons virginity is loss when there is any vaginal interaction. once the dick is in your v-card is gone. same for a guy, meaning once he actually has sex-vaginal sex with a gurl he is no longer a virgin and neither is the gurl. point blank, theres no way around it

Answer 6

Technically, you loose virginity from vaginal insertion, both sexes loose in the same act, socially, you loose virginity by any sexual activity.

Answer 7

I really ought to get off this for the day. But I'd say the loss comes when you start to climb into bed and.....