I'm 13, have a strong resentment of my parents, especially my father. I guess I'll never get over it. It's been like that for 7 months. Whenever possible, I avoid talking to tem, avoid being around them. Of course we don't know the future, but I think when I have a job and can live on my own I'll write my father offf my life and will very rarely talk with my mom.
Where can such resentment take me? What are the possible consequences of being so resentful about my parents? Will this harass my life?
Thank you for your time
2006-09-05 15:50:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
,this may not be what you want to here but you are 13 years old and resentment is going to be a big part of you life . you are in the middle of growing up and being a child ,also remember it is hard for a parent to let their child grow up and, they do all they can to help ther child to face the world it is a big place for a child to be along so hang in there and your time will come i promise you
2006-09-09 09:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by ann p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resentment is never a good thing. Hypothetically speaking, if you had to wear a live animal for clothing, would you think a great white shark or a grizzly bear compared to a gentle kitten or a docile puppy would be better for your overall daily mood and attitude toward yourself and others? Just as a shark or grizzly would chew, eat and destroy your physical body, resentment in time will do to your emotional, mental, and physical well being. I don't know what was done to you, but it sounds pretty severe to me, if you have an adult at school or church or aunt/uncle that you trust, go to them and talk about what is wrong so that you can forgive and get rid of the resentment which is like a cancer to you, and it does nothing to those that you hold the resentment towards.
2006-09-05 16:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by pjs1951 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resentment leads to bitterness and can ruin your life. Ask yourself why you feel resentment and anger toward your parents. Sit down and talk with them about your feelings. Maybe you need to forgive them. I don't know, but I do know that if you don't deal with resentment in an emotionally healthy manner, it can destroy you and hurt everyone near you. From experience I know that anger, resentment, and bitterness can eat away at you. It can cause stress and eventually lead to physical problems such as diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, panic disorder, cancer and many others. It can destroy relationships--not only with those you are resentful toward but also those with your friends and other relatives. I'm sure a lot of teens feel the way you do, but instead of letting it control your life, do something about it. If it becomes too serious of a problem, consider counseling.
2006-09-06 02:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 13, I did nothing but hang out with my friends or close myself off in my room. I didn't speak to my parents unless necessary, and usually that involved yelling and fighting. I constantly told them that I hated them, and I couldn't wait to be on my own.
Guess what?
I went off to college, and graduated, and in that time, found out that my parents were the best in all the world, and were always there for me. We get along great now. I am a mother, and a wife, and I am close with my parents.
You may not see it now, but let me tell you. When you get older, you will see what truly amazing people your parents are, and how much they really love you. And you will grow to appreciate them for who they are and how much they used to piss you off.
It is the job of a parent to be a parent - not to be liked, or to be cool. If they are being either of those things, then they aren't being a parent, and that will be worse for you. Them setting rules and making you follow them will ready you for life. I say that will the most experience. If my parents hadn't loved me enough to piss me off, I would be in prison somewhere or on drugs, or even dead right now. I am that type of personality. But they loved me, and made me stick to the rules, and now I sit here typing on my laptop, taking a break from going over business proposals and typing financial reports for the business I work for. I graduated college with my bachelor's degree, and met a wonderful man that treats me like a queen. We have been together for three years, and have a beautiful thirteen month old daughter. I would have none of this without my parents and their love and stubbornness.
What am I saying? It will pass. You are a normal thirteen year old. I am sure that my daughter will hate me and my husband when she is your age. That just means that we will be doing our jobs.
2006-09-05 16:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hitler resented the Jews, but that is a pretty extreme example.
You have to realize that your parents want to see you do your best.
You need to examine why you resent them. In 20 years, you may consider it a blessing that they were the way they are today, and they may not be their to share in your realization.
2006-09-05 15:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by patweb01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sheyla,
What you are really trying to say is - You are normal!
99 out of 100 13 year-olds feel exactly the same and hey, you know what?
When you are 14 or 15 - you'll see things differently.
2006-09-05 15:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of us have felt this way at some point or another. Try to remind yourself of some good things from time to time. Things often get better as you move through your teen years. Good luck.
2006-09-05 15:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by pixiechick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forgive everyone! go to www.intouch.org to get more insight or video about your problem
2006-09-09 15:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋