Is 20 too young to have a kid even if you dont party or go to clubs and you work in child care?

Answer 1

Why would you want to start so early? Being a parent, a really good parent, is a full time job. Enjoy life for a few years before you take on a responsibility that changes your entire life.

Answer 2

I think maturity level and readiness are much more important than age in having children, so no, I wouldn't say that 20 is too young.

With that being said, there is a lot in life that can be experienced without children. And also, even if you are in a committed relationship now, and can't see things changing, the stress of child-rearing could drastically change that.

I think couples need some time to grow and develop a relationship together before bringing a child into the mixture. And 20 could be too young for that.

But if you could forsee yourself providing a loving home for a child whether or not there was anyone else to help provide financial or moral support, and you feel you've experienced everything that you wanted to without children, then go for it.

Answer 3

I don't think 20 is too young to have a child. Just make sure that you are ready for this life changing event. I had my first child when I was 19 and I'll admit that I wasn't ready for it. You can't just leave the house with a kid, you have to pack the diaper bag, the bottles, entertainment, and don't forget the kid! There is no get up and go anymore. Sleepless nights as well are just as fun. Please think it through before you do anything. I'm 24 and I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old and sometimes I just wish for a break and it doesn't happen. There are no breaks for mothers. Remember that. Good luck on your decision.

Answer 4

Just make sure it's what you really want at this time. I had my daughter when I was 20, and everything turned out fine, but there were times I wished I had waited for a few years. Looking back I can see I was quite immature at that age. I really needed to grow up some more myself, plus there were things in life I sacrificed and put on hold for a while. Just do a lot of soul searching first. Remember, your child is your responsibilty for 18 years, and then some. Also keep in mind how expensive it is to raise a child, not even counting putting him through college.
I know all this sounds kind of negative, but these are all hard facts of life.

Answer 5

Yes I got pregnant at 19 and had mine at 20. Go to college first and get a degree in early childhood. Seems like thats your passion since you take care of kids already and love them so much you wish you had one. It's a whole different ball game when you have to actually keep one though. They get sick, get up at all hours of the night, aren't always cute and cuddly. You will know that when you have a Dr. appointment or go to the supermarket with them and start throwing a tantrum. At work you have the good part of it play, have fun and give them back. Go to school, get a good job, buy a house, and find the right man to father your children. Kids are expensive. They may want to go to college someday and you must provide so think about all of that before you make a decision. Good luck.

Answer 6

No, I do not think 20 is too young. 17 and under is too young, still living with your parents are too young, still acting like a child yourself is too young. Having a job, responsibilities, a house/renting, a car, LOVE..... then I think you should have a baby! If you can take on those responsibilities then go for it. Your child will change your whole life they are wonderful.

Answer 7

im 21 and married and pregnant. Id say its up to you! yes we could have waited until we could afford to move out of my parents garage apartment but it happened and we are happy.

I am in college studying to be a kindergarten teacher and I think that helps a lot so its good you work in child care. I know a lot more about children than most girls my age who are still out partying. I just want to tell you that having a baby means you cant have alone time for 18 years.

Answer 8

If you are mature enough and are in a steady relationship for some time then no but from personal experience let me tell you it is not easy. I had my first at 18 and I do everything for my children and would never change having any of them but it is tough. My husband left me after our fourth child and it is really hard. I did it by myself for quite a while because I was meant to have children it is in my blood to love and care for them and always make them my first priority but it doesn't always work that way especially when you are young. If your boyfirend leaves you alone with a baby can you deal with it all by yourself with no help? Can you deal with crying and screaming for sometimes hours if your baby is colicky? Can you deal with not being able to go out to dinner or a movie frequently? Can you deal with having to cancel plans because your baby is sick and you have to stay home and take care of him/her? Can you deal with feedings every 2 hours? Can you support your baby if your baby's father decides to leave and not pay any support? (My ex doesn't pay a penny and yes I have brought it to the courts it doesn't help). So if you can handle all of this and you don't want to live your life on welfare then yeah you are old enough but if you say no to one of these questions wait until you grow up a little. I have a niece who thought she could do it at 20 as well but when her man split so did she and she left the baby with her parents. So just make sure you are really ready to make some serious sacrifices because you will have to. I never drank or partied and I had to sacrifice alot but I was ready to make those sacrifices.

Answer 9

i had 2 and was preg when i was 20!
I was 18 and married before i got preg thou.
me nor my hubby were ever "party" people
my whole lifes ambition was to be a mother.

I wasnt married to my current hubby when i got preg the frist time thou (i had been seperated from my first husband for nearly a year, and my current hubby and I were simply waiting for my divorce to come thru so that we could get married, the marrige was planed well before the pregnacy and yes the pregnacy was planned)

we got married 12/15/00 had our children 2/25/01 1/1/02 and 12/12/02 and due in 04/07

I say if your capable and responsible to have a child then go for it. be happy. and just remember that theres no going back once you have a baby you cant just say oops i dont want to be a mom. (your gona be a mom for the rest of your life) just make sure your prepared before you do it. we really wish we had bought a bigger house and made a nest egg before we had kids but we still had them and still love them so oh well. we'll just have to live in this small one till we can find a bigger one. on our current budget.

Answer 10

Im 20 years old.. and I dont party or anything.. I dont think that its too young of a age to have a baby. As long as you know what your going to get yourself into its all good!! Good luck with everything!