When my son gets upset, he hits. He usually just hits me or my husband. I've tried pretend crying, hitting back (he actually hits harder when we hit him), putting him in time out, flicking (all suggestions from the doctor... nothing harsh, just to get his attention). I don't know what else to do. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
2006-09-05 15:35:56 · 11 answers · asked by Jebnifer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Very simply: when my son did something I call a 'deal breaker' (something that is hurtful to others or himself) his world stops.
Dead.
I stop talking to him. I don't rationalize. I say one simple sentence
"NO. We don't HIT."
Take him firmly by the hand, and remove him from everything. He goes into a room with no toys and nothing interesting for him, and I tell him again "We DON'T Hit"
I close the door and wait.
He'll scream. I wait until he calms himself, stops screaming, and then I'll open the door and ask "Are you going to hit?"
If he answers 'Yes', close the door again.
If he answers 'No', then say simply and cheerfully, "Oh ok, you can come out then."
Works to this day.
2006-09-05 16:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never hit your child. Time outs work really well. When he hits you calmly but with anger tell him "No hitting". Short and sweet works well, the same words every time. Then put him in the corner of the room you are in for about a minute and turn your back to him, ignore him. After a minute has passed tell him "OK, you can play now" and have that be it. Later in the day tell him how nicely he plays with you when he isn't hitting. For that matter praise him often for playing with you nicely without hitting. Just be consistent and everything should work out.
2006-09-05 16:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dainlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree dont hit him back. It makes it only seem to him that hitting it ok. This also goes along with when your child starts to bite, cause this will also come. Tell your child that it is not ok to hit and it hurts. Like "Mommy doesn't like it when you hit and it is not ok." Or When you are telling your child this get down at his eye level. If the hitting is getting worse, then you should put your child in time out. Have the child sit in a corner or by a wall where they cant see the TV for two minutes. If your child dosent like it, then too bad. It's the only way you are going to get him to stop hitting. And do this everytime he hits.
2006-09-05 15:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you hit him back when he hits you that's just showing him to do it , its not showing him to stop because he sees that when he does it you do it back... I think that you should try to be more calmer with him and not put him in time out because he really doesn't know what that is and he's kinda of young too so to them hitting you is like if they was playing because they dont know and also he will grow out of it because he will learn that he's not suppose to do that... And even though is embarrassing in public I think that you should just talk to him and try to tell him whats right and wrong and what he should do and shouldn't do because yelling and doing other out control stuff are really not gonna help ... I hope that my advice helps .... I know what its like to have a kid that hits back because I have one that those the same thing and I all I do is play around back wit him because he dont know So think about and hope things get better..
2006-09-05 16:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out should be stuck at as he must not be allowed to be violent You must never be violent as this is like saying violence is ok.
Try to use other ways of distracting bad behaviour before the worse violent behaviour begins.
When good behaviour happens reward with descriptive praise frequently, eg 'You have been so kind to do that' or 'I feel so happy when you are careful and gentle'
2006-09-05 15:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by pol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time outs should work. You just have to be consistent and stay calm. Let him know that hitting is not acceptable and make him apologize to you after his time out is up.
Here is a link to a page that has some useful parenting links:
http://pediatrics.about.com/od/parentingwebsites/
2006-09-05 15:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ragdoll 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Act very stern. All the coddling of the behavior will only promote it, and striking him (however gently) will just make him think it's ok since you did it. Grab his arms and hold them at his sides until he stops, and if he throws a tantrum, all too bad, but children must learn to do what they're told so they don't get away with their little fits. (especially in public. It's very embarassing.)
2006-09-05 15:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by xcrimsonxphoenixofxhellx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit him harder, and be stern with him. don't pretend cry. that makes him think that he is in control of you, not the other way around...Don't let up; he needs to understand that it is not right to hit the way he's doing
2006-09-05 15:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try being nice 2 him, instead of hitting him back.
2006-09-05 15:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a baby fight. I did that with my kid. When you set up a baby fight the other kid hits him really hard and they realize how how much it hurts and they dont do it again.
Good luck.
2006-09-05 15:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Midnghtangls 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋