I live in Florida and my boyfriend lives in North Carolina. We both have busy schedules since he is an athlete and I have a baby on the way; we also bith go to school. I went to visit him this past weekend and found out that he flirts alot with the girls up there. He was hiding it and I only found out because she called his dorm room and I was suspicious as to who she was. Me and him have a two and a half year history with a couple breaks in between but supposedly wants us to get married and have a family together. I understand that we wont see each other for months at a time but does that make it ok assuming it doesnt go any farther than just flirting. Another factor to look at is the fact that I am a nude stripper and its my job to flirt and.... well I dont think I have to go into detail. But let it be known that I only do it cuz the money is good. Should I break up with him? Or should I allow flirtin to destroy the trust I have in him? HELP
2006-09-05 15:32:09 · 23 answers · asked by Monica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I didn't know you could still be a stripper while pregnant. Cool! About your man; flirting is one thing, but it sounds like he's leading these girls on, if not worse. He has a guilty conscience if he's hiding it. This doesn't mean anything is going on, but it means he knows he's doing something he's not supposed to... yet continuing to do it. It's disrespectful to you, it's not cool. Long distance is not an excuse to bend the rules.
I don't think it's worth dumping him though, especially if you're pregnant! Tell him honestly how you feel. Just be very matter of fact about it. Tell him he means everything to you and you noticed him flirting and it really, really hurt you. Tell him you're jealous because you want to be his one and only woman. Sometimes admitting your insecurities and showing your vulnerabilities to a guy makes you very endearing and irresistible especially when done in a cute way.
Considering your occupation, odds are he may feel the same way as you. Talk to each other about it.
2006-09-05 16:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I think he's using you. Put the child up for adoption and move on. He's a player and probably will not stop after the baby arrives. If he will be graduating from college and you remain a stripper, the two will not mix along the road.
2006-09-05 22:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by abracadabragal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is ok, as long as it goes no further. You are a stripper, and I assume that he knows and is ok with it. that is fine as well, for your situation. The problem I see is that he was hiding it. Like I said, flirting would be ok, but being secretive about it is not.
2006-09-05 22:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by There can only be one - (ANSWER) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean you are already pregnant by dude so you obviously want to be with him if you were irresponsible enough to get pregnant. I'm not judging you either but that's how it seems to me, so get over the flirting and move in with him so you can spend more time together and he can help with the baby.
2006-09-05 22:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lady G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, flirting is not harmful, but it does open up the door to temptation. So, should you break up with him? Well, it really comes down to do you believe what he is saying, that all he is doing is flirting, if you do believe him, then stay with him, if not let it go.
2006-09-05 22:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by KG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn'nt in and of it'self but it has a great potential for becoming harmful due to the circumstances of distance between you and your partner. I t can become very loely for you to be seperated from the one you love and innocet flirtatiousness can then become something else.
2006-09-05 22:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by I would say 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are flirting and getting paid to do it, there's nothing wrong with him doing it. Assuming that he is the father on your child, you should try to work it out with him.
2006-09-05 22:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FLIRTING IS HEALTHY FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP.AS LONG AS U HAVE UNDERSTANDING WITH SELF ON HOW FAR TO GO!WHAT IS HARMFUL IS JEALIOUSY AND LACK OF TRUST,THE BEST RELATIONSHIP KILLER IN THE WORLD.FLIRTING GIVES U THAT SENCE THAT U'R NOT ALONE-AND-THAT U ARE STILL SEXY AND LOVED [%CASH%]
2006-09-05 22:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's playing (flirting) behind your back, he's just waiting for a chance to take it to the next level...he's a young man with all the ambitions and drives of other young guys...be careful!
2006-09-05 22:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirting isn't bad if it is short distance but long :/ i think that can definitely be harm full
if u really like this guy i think u should quit your job the money should not matter if u love him
2006-09-05 22:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by matthew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋