I was e-mailing my boyfriend and I talked about a guy that I like to jokingly try to bring down his ego in my class. Then he said...."You don't like him do you? It's ok, I don't care anymore." What does that mean?! I'm am scared to find out what he meant but I know I will figure it out someday. So please help me! Thank you!!!!
2006-09-05 15:23:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI....I mentioned the dudes name once....and even then I told him that he totally hates my guts....so yeah.
2006-09-05 15:28:19 · update #1
ask him.
2006-09-05 15:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by true-mysteryfrom chinese wish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people say things like that as a defense mechanism. He may have been hurt (I would be if my partner spoke about other women he likes) and wanted to hurt you back or maybe he really just doesn't care anymore. Either way - you need to clear this up with him asap for your own peace of mind. A bunch of strangers can't tell you what your boyfriend is thinking. I reckon it was a defense mechanism more than anything though. (but I don't know if that's the case - I just know how I'd feel if my guy told me in an email about other women he thinks are hot. I'd be really hurt and pi$$ed off and would want to hurt him back) It's very different if you'd said it to his face so that he could see you were joking but unfortunately with emailing and sms there is no way to put emphasis and emotion into the right words so that the other person knows how to take the information. Talk to him and explain yourself and listen to his answer, reassure him that it was only a joke, why would you need another guy when you've got him, no-one else even comes close etc etc...! I hope everything works out for the best and I bet you don't go doing that again hey!!
2006-09-05 22:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by ellyfantastic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you hurt his feelings by talking about the other guy. Trust me nothing hurts a guys heart more that the the girl he's crazy about talking to him about another guy! Remember he's not going to tell you how he feels that's how some guys are. Apologize and let him know that it's him you want to be with. Good luck! Don't ever do that again!
2006-09-05 22:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I don't know how old you are, or how serious you are with your boyfriend. But beware how much you "joke around with" other guys. No matter what the reason is for. Your bf will take this as you having more fun with other guys than him. If he loves you, he wants to be your everything, not hear about other guys that made you laugh. What he said is him trying to be "ok" with your being flirtatious with other guys (yes you ARE flirting...admit it). He likes you alot, and is trying to give you your space...so give him his respect. Back off with the other guys and give HIM your full attention. Trust me on this one. I guarantee it will work
2006-09-05 22:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by music_junkie_55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello lady_ellie,
I think that he's saying that he doesn't care about your games anymore. The only way of finding out for sure is to have a talk with him. He's supposedly your boyfriend. You can have a halfway serious conversation with him can't you? Best of luck to you both.
--Rick
2006-09-05 22:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just having a really bad day, or maybe he is looking for an excuse to break up with you. Either way, he shouldn't have been so blunt with you. I hope that if he is still wanting to be your boyfriend, he won't be so direct and hurtful the next time he's having a bad day. Good luck to you, hon, and God Bless!
2006-09-05 22:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you try to bring down his ego and hurt him? seems like to me that you aren't so into your boyfriend anymore. i know people do mean things sometime because they are upset or jealous, but did you ask yourself why you did this? if you are truely regretting doing it and love your bf then you should appologize. He is probably feeling pretty hurt and even feels you broke his trust in you, so act quick if you want to save your relationship. Otherwise, call it quits, because it hurts to play with people's emotions like that.
2006-09-05 22:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by rollarcoaster brain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both have a common friend then ask him/her to secretly find out your answer. If this does not work, talk to him politely about your joke. If he is an angry guy, don't talk the matter in public (i mean friends). But if he is stupid enough to understand your joke, then forget him. Stupidity is not a crime so he is free to go. Hope it helps. :-)
2006-09-05 22:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by pisces_ny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he meant guys don't like hearing about your ex's, especially in the context of which you did (joking or not). In fact, if you were ever really serious with the ex at one time, then having your current bf even hear the ex's name can bother him internally. Bottom line, don't speak of past relationships. (unless of course you tell him about prior girl on gril action that you wouldnt mind doing again with him present)
2006-09-05 22:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably thinking that you like the other guy but I think he is just a little jelous so tell him that you don't like the guy in your class and then make plans to go out this weekend!
2006-09-05 22:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by theacademyis...love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably nothing, he just wants you to stop using that to aggravate him. To be honest it can get old you bringing up some other dude. Just think if he did that to you, mentioning some chic. You'd get ticked off.
2006-09-05 22:31:34 · answer #11 · answered by Lady G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋