You know the scenario: Everybody can see that this guy is a first-class jerk except you. Friends have told you, family members have told you, hell, even his ex has warned you that he's "no damn good." But despite all the warnings, did you still date him? If so, why did you continue even after you've been warned?
2006-09-05 15:20:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sadly because I let my head run and ignore what everyone around me was telling me.
2006-09-05 15:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by scharfie528 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I unfortuanatly can totally relate to this question. My ex was a jerk, is still a jerk 20 years later, and everyone is rejoicing that we are finally divorced. I had people volunteering to testify at what a jerk he was.
I think in my young, naive state that I saw his good points (he has one or two originally) and felt I could handle the bad points and help him become an un-jerk. Not so! Turns out once a jerk, always a jerk, and Ladies--you really can't change someone.
2006-09-05 15:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by little1missy1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as they say love is blind .many times i dated guys just because people told me they were no good .u have to be careful what kind of guy he is if he is not a trouble maker (like a thief or takes drugs ,or if he never raises his voice or his hand at u)then u should be ok but if ever he raises a hand or his voice or he cause any problem u know ur in for some trouble and i advise u to run and run fast.
the last person i got involved with i got worned about and i dated him for 4 years,in those for years he seem nice at first but as the mths went by then years i ended up with 2 broken noses,broken cheek,kicked bruised ,electricuted,and stabbed,and had my head cracked open .i have since listed to family and friends if they say he is no good i ask them why and what they see that i dont ...because when ur in love or fancy someone u dont tend to see the bad things they have ,only the good.
iam now married with 4 kids with someone everyone likes and he has never raised his voice or fist.
2006-09-05 15:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from...Well my friends and his ex's told me he was a jerk well i ended up dating him. It was cool the first month or to but then everything changed. He started name calling, pressuring, and eventually he hit me. The best advice i can give you is if you really like this kid then go for it..But use your friends, family, and his ex,s advice through out the relationship. Just be careful and don't let him walk over. Good Luck i hope this helped,
2006-09-05 15:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by motormouth2904 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 09:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that too. Some people are just totally addicting. And we get to see the non-jerk side of them too. But eventually we get our fill and can walk away.
2006-09-05 15:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is one of those things that a person has to learn on their own...if you have already developed feelings for someone you run into what I call "tunnel vision"!! You will eventually learn that all of your family and friends are right, but you have to learn it on your own. It's unfortunate how we are responsible for breaking our own hearts at times, but it is life's lesson and it only makes us stronger.
2006-09-05 15:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by KansasCityGirl26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, when I was very young. Not for long though. I finally decided he was a jerk on my own. Dumped him. Now he regrets it. Too late.
2006-09-05 15:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coz Women always like to play as a "Ms fixer" to transform bad boy to family man.
And they always fail.
Men DO NOT, I repeat.. DO NOT change for better (unless they are in Christ ;))
2006-09-05 15:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this happened to me .everyone tried to tell me he was up to no-good and they were right i really thought he cared about me as i did him when the money was gone, so was he. i learned a lesson the hard way and i'm still paying for it
2006-09-05 15:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋