Serious answers please
2006-09-05 15:14:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop looking for the right guy. most guys are jerks anyway. good ones are reeeeaaalllly rare. so if you are lucky then you will get one. it depends on what your destiny is.
2006-09-05 15:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by bluepuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are doing anything "wrong", I just think you're coming into contact with the wrong people.
You don't say where you meet these guys who run from relationships. If it's a local bar, then you probably don't want a serious anything with someone like that. Most men aren't there to find a life-long mate anyway. They want someone to drink with, maybe go home with for a quickie, and then on to their next conquest.
If you're not in church, try finding a good Word-based church and get involved. Your chances of meeting someone who knows how to love you are far better in an environment like that. (I'm not saying it would guarantee true love or fidelity, but it's a much better place to start.) Most men in church understand things like commitment, love, respect....things that it sounds like the men you're meeting know nothing about.
And good men aren't only in church...expand your social circles and get involved elsewhere. Join an exercise class, go to school at night, take up tennis....WHATEVER sounds good to you. Don't join to meet men though...join because it's good for you and it's what you want to do. Meeting men who share your same interests will come easily then.
It will also widen your circles of girlfriends as well. Sometimes you can feel more lonely with a steady boyfriend than a bevy of girlfriends who also share your interests and understand you better.
Hope some of this helps.....wishing you all the best!
2006-09-05 15:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know, you make your own destiny. That's by the choices you make in life. Anyways, you'll find a gentleman someday. You just gotta be patient. You also gotta be careful who you get with. You gotta take your time to know that guy pretty well in order to see whether you can trust him or not. Why do have to take your time? Because you want to make sure you give your heart to the right guy. The guy that will be honest and loyal to you. In other words, don't give all what you got. He has to earn to win your heart. I was once in your position were I couldn't find that special person. Now I have finally found her. It took time to find a mature girl. You'll find him. Or maybe he'll find you. You'll never know. But, hey, keep your chin up. Don't be feeling blue just because you can't find that special guy. Have fun for the mean time. However, I wish you my very best. Good Luck!
2006-09-05 15:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious answer from a serious woman--
STOP HAVING SEX WITH MEN YOU'RE NOT MARRIED TO--period.
I've been proposed to by 3 different sucessful handsome men in the past 10 years--and I didnt sleep with any of them..Years ago, and old man told me "If you want a man to love you--dont offer him what's between your legs--offer him your heart".
Your Momma and your Grandman probably told you that but you dont want to listen. As the Color Purple says "The more things change--the more they stay the same". A man is NOT going to buy the cow when he can get the milk for free...Where has all the sex gotten you?...Men will ALWAYS beg plead and try to get sex from us women--but it takes a Real Woman to say NO, you better respect me. Men respect me--period.
I am single because I CHOOSE to be--but I still have men asking to marry me--because I have self respect. They will not use or abuse me--they will not have sex with me and I am not their wife--period. If they dont like it---they aint man enough for me and they can hit the road..
Stop being desperate and Love Yourself..Enjoy your life, work, do all the things you want to do--travel, go back to school--whatvever--But Get a Life. Men love women who have their own life and goals. Focus on you and fulfilling your Dreams in life--and men will always seek you out.
Peace
2006-09-05 15:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends where you are at in life hs or college. College most guys like to go out and party and take any blond home they could find so ya might not one to begin. Ive seen my friends have girlfriends and cheat on them many times. And their are some guys out there who want a relationship.
2006-09-05 15:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by Martin M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say where you're meeting them, but if it's at a club or bar, you might try at your church, when they're having a picnic or other function, or maybe even try a dating service, if you don't mind putting your stats on display for others to see. Keep trying though, hon, there is someone for you out there, I promise! Good luck and God Bless!
2006-09-05 15:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try being there friend first and getting to know them, now a days, commitment is a scary thing (who knows why) but it is, maybe your comming on too strong? or maybe its a blessing in disguise and that every guy so far is the same, because atleast your not stuck in a terrible relationship.
2006-09-05 15:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 09:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going to the same places with the same people hoping to meet someone different; you won't. Step out of your comfort zone and you'll be surprised at what you find.
2006-09-05 15:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Karen? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not ya that are doing something wrong,maybe ya just didn't find someone really special 4 ya....
In the right time,ya gonna find the guy of your life,ya just need to pacient,and dun rush anything,time will come and the prince of your life will appear...
2006-09-05 15:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by kristy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont belive u are doing anything rong most guys are just out looking 4 sex cause they cant handle comitment. i do belive the right guy will come along all in good time so enjoy urself have fun and forget about relationships n in time someone will come along and u will be ready
2006-09-05 15:17:55 · answer #11 · answered by thinkbecthink69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋