how long did it take you to bond w ur newborn?

Question

how long is too long

Answer 1

First of all and almost as importantly DON'T STRESS. your body is still going through many hormonal processes to regulate from being pregnant. When you add the stress of not bonding when you think you should, you actually make it harder on yourself AND your baby. Many people don't understand that babies and children are VERY smart and can sense tension, stress, pain etc... Take your time.. Get to know him/her from the outside of your body. Enjoy your time with your newborn and don't stress about the bonding. It will come.. maybe not as soon as you think.. but it WILL come. I am sure... nope, 100% sure that you are going to be an AWESOME mommy! Take care and God Bless!

Answer 2

My older daughter was born after three weeks of bedrest, an induced, 52-hour labor, 3 hours of pushing, and an emergency C-section. (I had preeclampsia.) I felt like hell. And she was jaundiced and had both gastroesophageal reflux and kidney reflux. But I didn't know about those last two; I just knew that she cried. And cried. 14 hours a day, every day. It lasted for months. I remember calling the Nurseline in tears, finally, and asking that they listen to her. The nurse said, "Honey, that baby is in PAIN. That's not colic, or fussiness. You need to take her in. Tomorrow." And I did. And she got drugs that made her a whole new baby. And suddenly she started to interact with me and the world instead of screaming or sleeping all the time. I remember laying her on her belly, and watching her struggle to lift up her head, looking for all the world like an old turtle. And I suddenly felt this RUSH of love and thought, "Wow. So THAT'S what other moms are always talking about!"

I think I had a pretty good case of baby blues? But it took Phoebe and I a few months to get to know each other and get everything else all sorted out.

My younger baby, though, was a whole different story. She was a jaundiced, C-section baby with both kinds of reflux, too, but I KNEW what to do for her. I was smitten the moment they handed her to me.
Good luck.

Answer 3

It took no time at all. I was really hoping for a boy, but I ended up with a beautiful girl and from the moment that I first held her I was instantly bonded and hooked on her. In another month she'll turn 2

Answer 4

With my first and third I bonded right away.

With my second, it took a little more time. Her labor was quick and it took me a while to process that she was actually HERE now and I wasn't PG anymore. She had trouble getting started breathing so she actually had to leave my chest for a little while during her first hours. And 4 of the Grandparents arrived shortly after the birth and she got passed around. I wish I had not allowed that so early. She needed to be in my arms. I'd say it took me the first month or so to really begin to feel as connected to her as I did to my other two from the start.

Answer 5

Post Partum depression can delay the bonding. If you feel kind of blazay about everything, and not interested in anything - even the baby, you may have ppd.
Bonding will happen in time, don't worry. If it takes awhile, just treat the child well, give him/her affection and touch and the necessities, and you will come around.
Once they get cuter and more responsive (smiling), it gets easier.

Answer 6

I also have a dogs named destiny and she or he like my new child. like Goldy she is my international. while i'm unhappy she is there while i want enterprise she is there... it extraordinarily much like she shares my emotions. she is often sitting near to me and specifically cases i do no longer even could tell her what i prefer her to do ... like i've got faith so undesirable while a dogs begs and all I could do is look at her while she is begging and she or he would be in a position to end... it incredibly is fullyyt a small occasion .... she is going everywhere with me. if something have been to take place to her i do no longer understand what i might i do. i cant rather supply a good rationalization on the relationship we've... she is my new child and perfect pal.

Answer 7

He is now 18 months old. I felt bonded to him within a few days of finding out I was pregnant.

Answer 8

For me, it felt immediate. I saw her, and that was it. I knew that she was my baby, and she knew I was her mom. She would look at me when I would speak, and she acted as if she knew the sound of my voice.

I know that everyone is different. They say that if you don't immediately bond, that is fine - you are in essence strangers. It takes some time to get to know someone, and it isn't any different with your baby. Don't feel bad about it - I promise that it will happen. And when it does, it will feel like a ton of bricks hitting you, and you will love it. But it is different with every mom and kid, so don't feel like a bad mom if it hasn't happened yet for you. It will.

Answer 9

About five months, so don't worry. Sooner or later you'll start calling it by it's name and not "the baby" any more. If you think you're not bonding like you "should" be, make sure it's not post-partum depression.

Answer 10

I was lucky it was immediate but many people take several days even weeks. Sometimes depression delays bonding..then it's a good idea to see your doc or midwife.