How do I stop obsessing over this guy I have to see everyday? Even though it's only for a couple of minutes. Well maybe a couple of minutes twice a day. Looking at other girls. Sends me mixed signals and flirts sometimes. But then sometimes wont even look at me, even when he has to hand me something. I just can't stand it anymore. I mean I'm so attracted to him everytime I see him. I get the same feelings over and over. But I just can't take it. He's obviously just not into me. This has been going on for like 6 months. He probably thinks I like him and he just flirts for fun. And then avoids me or doesn't make eye contact to not lead me on. Cake and eat it to I think!!! I see him looking at other girls when he comes over and it hurts when he doesn't acknowledge me. He even talks to others and won't make conversation with me unless it's a question about work. This really hurts my feelings. What can I do? I need to stop obsessing!!!!
2006-09-05 14:39:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's so hard when he sends the mixed signals though. Like I said no eye contact and then staring into my eyes for like 5 seconds when handing me something. Pretty mixed if you ask me? I don't want to like him and feel this way for him anymore.
2006-09-05 14:41:28 · update #1
And why do I like him. It's not just he's looks he's funny and seems really sweet!!!
2006-09-05 14:43:40 · update #2
Maybe he's thinking "but I really shouldn't date coworkers". So he's working hard to avoid getting attached to you.
If that's the case, you'll have to take the lead if you want it to go anywhere, because he won't. But you'll have to use your stealthy womanly wiles on him or his danger flags will pop up and he'll block you.
You know how you can throw food at squirrels and birds, and get them to slowly come closer to you, and eventually eat out of your hand? That's pretty much what you'll have to do with this guy. But it might be worth it.
2006-09-05 15:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Arbor Dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy!! join the club!! since I have the similar situation going on, I would just only speak "good morning" "good afternoon" and as much as it kills you and I know this is hard, just don't send any signals what so ever! ACT as though you don't have a care in the world, like he is just air and you pass right through him. I know that may sound pretty harsh, but you have to worry about YOU and your feelings because he is doing his thing. So why don't you.
2006-09-05 21:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Cheetara 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awwwh.... puppy love.
Oh well, it looks like you are going to have to be the woman and step to him and say HI.
It sounds like he wont bite, but if he does- what you gonna do ?
2006-09-05 21:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by yadedyah_dc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get over yr self and ask him straight up if he like you or just ask him out before one of those other girls do ...grab your balls or what have you...and go for it
2006-09-05 21:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by wyldmntgyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change ur job.
Hang out with more friend.
Get a life.
2006-09-05 21:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋