my question is about depression?

Question

hi ive been going thew depresstion for some years ive just lost my best friend my darlings sister who i miss so deeply im very loney im taken depresstion tablets but thay dont seem to help im thing of asking my doctor to change them ive got a young son thats all ways in trouble and it really getting me down i cant sleep im very moody with the rest of my family it so hard when you lose someone you love so dearly it only been three mth and i miss her heaps we where so close im just so lonely

Answer 1

Robyn, we are all here with you. Your dear sister would rather be seeing you from above with a happy life, smiling than feeling sad and depressed. I believe your sister IS looking over you. Talk to her before you fall asleep at night. Write to her in a journal, you'll feel much better. Your son might be getting into trouble because he sees your life falling apart so you better try to "snap out of it" dear. Not meant in a bad way, of course but everyone loses loved ones every day and life must go on......your sister would be so proud of you to see that. Don't be lonely anymore..............seriously Robyn, think about it........WHEN you can pull yourself together , for your sister, and be a part of your son's life again by taking charge and getting out there and doing things, you will make new friendships and your life will change so much for the better. It doesn't happen by itself because there's no such thing as fairy's so I'll just say a lil prayer for you and yours this evening..........................get back to me and let me know if you feel better. Take care!!

Answer 2

im sorry to hear that, and i know that when u lost someone u love is really hard to smile and keep going as nothing happened. But u have a soon and u have to be strong 4 him. Also u must know depression is not a deasease u can control by urself. U should find a friend or a dr to talk with.... talking about ur problems helps u a lot. Also try to get some sun light, cause vitamin D helps u to be in a good mood. Do exercice or get a hobbie... before u go to bed breath slowly, wich is gonna help u to relax. Also u can help others (poor people, sick people) wich will make u feel a better person. Or u can go out w ur son, go to the movies, to the park and breath some fresh air. There r also pills 4 depression cause sometimes is caused of not having all the vitamins that u need, because ur not eating cause ur sad. Dont stay at home sleeping or sitting watching tv. If u wanna talk, just let me know.. im a good listener.

Answer 3

Hard place to be. Any time tradjedies occur and more so when they occur close together and then that constant aggrevation of a troublesome child, puts you in a place where a serious breakdown could occur. I do not know what meds you are on , but if they are not working your Dr. ought to be changing something ( a shrink I hope) Get a Pill book and see what maximum safe doses are. For anti depressants like prozac they often prescibe even higher. If you are not close to the max dose ,, if I were you I'd increase the dosage to try that then if it works tell the Dr what you did and the results. Some Dr.s habitually underprescribe. I am not a Dr so weigh that with what I am telling you. If it is a reg. Dr. you are getting the drugs from then ask for a referal to a shrink. If this gets really unbearable and you are afraid it will get worse and you are on some restrictive health plan that makes help in the distant future a pretend suicide will wake them up. I know thats really out there but the books all say you are in a very vulnerable position, that could get worse in a hurry, and health care systems just are out to save a buck. You see many people muddle through and get better after lotsa agony and unlike if you had lotsa money and they would suck it up testing etc. our society would rather save a buck. Sometimes you have to force them to do the right thing. Its up to you but there are some of your options. I would not wait 2 months to see a shrink, make some noise and if you are seeing a shrink push him a little harder and no need to force things as long as you can insist. Sometimes people just get used to you saying I am so sad and do not wake up to the situation has changed. Then there is God and prayer where some permanent help is available, if you can accept it.

Answer 4

No matter how good antidepressant medication is, it can't cure the feelings you have from the loss of your sister or the stress from your son's problem behavior. Grieving for your sister is normal, and though it hurts, it is better to experience it than shut it out.

Is your doctor a psychiatrist? You need to see one to get adequate advice on medication. Family doctors are well meaning and are courted by pharmaceutical sales people, but most of them really know very little about mental health.

Do you have a therapist or counselor? I recommend that you find one if you have not. You need support concerning your son and your sister's death. A therapist can tell you if your grief is normal or goes beyond that. There are support groups for people who havee lost loved ones. You hav options. Best wishes. love yourself!

Answer 5

Well, whatever you do, don't treat your body badly. The best thing to do while in depression, in my opinion, is to seek help in old and new friends, wherever they may be. Also, see your doctor again, and ask about counciling. See if your doctor can get you a councilor to help with your problems. And about that son of yours: teach him the meaning of discipline, respect, and good manners. That can help sometimes. Even if it doesn't seem to work at first, keep trying. Don't give up. When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on.

Answer 6

How long have you been taking the medication? Most anti-depressants take several weeks to really start working, and then you usually have to have the dosage adjusted. Talk to your doctor about the medication. Also ask for a referral to a therapist who can help you through this very difficult time. The incredible pain will lessen with time...just hang in there...

Answer 7

Yes it is very hard to lose someone. I just lost August 4th 2006 my 15 month old cousin whos mother decided to take a nap on couch while he was in the tub..I cry all the time, I miss him.. BUT if your that depressed you should get help with a doctor ASAP. Its not your fault. Soon after getting help you will feel like yourself again.. may god bless you and your family..

Answer 8

Stop takiin da meds.
Talk to someone.
Keep a journal and write until ur hand goes numb.
Cry until u feel dry.
Go swmmin and remember everythin like a film without noise inside ur mind and ur soul.
Listen to the ocean like it was listenin to u.
Pray and ask fer strength.
I have had depression for 4 years and I am 14 years old.
I have never gotten help, I have taken meds b4 it does not help.
I am cutter but I do realize i need help.
I feel lost and sad and sometimes so angry at this world.
but you can talk to me.
Just set yourself freee babe, you will soon learn how just wait..
I still am here though feeling trapped inside myself but all I Know is tat someday it will get better.

x

Answer 9

I understand what you are going thru. I lost my son 4 years ago and he, like your sister was a best friend to me. It takes along time to get over something like this. I now have a web site for my son, it is away for him to live on in my life. Go back and see your doctorbecause he might be able to put you on a different medication to help. I have decided that you dont get over a lose but you do learn to live with it, I talk about him all the time, I believe he would want that. God Bless you and know that you are in my prayers.

Answer 10

I haven't lost a sibling before but I would advise you talk to somebody. Maybe a pastor or somebody. Just talk to somebody. You need to get this off your chest and you need a person to listen. You can start writing your thoughts down on paper. I take Zoloft because I used to have panic attacks.One thing I read is sometimes getting counseling is the best thing. There might be some support groups or you might want to talk with a professional mental health person.