My best friend is also my child care provider, conflict of intrest ....?

Question

My best friend recently decieded to be my child care provider of my 3 kids & recieve payments from the state. This is a way for her to be home with her 4 kids, and still earn xtra income. We both work for a nursing agency that calls w/ little notice to work. Last week they called on a tuesday asking me to work, I said I need to check with my sitter let me call you back. They hung up and called my sitter/friend for the assignment and she took it with no notice to me stating that she couldn't watch my children because she was working. However she still got paid by me and the state for nothing. This weekend she accepted an assignement working the 6a-230pm shift and I worked the 2-10 shift. Before going to work I ended up leaving the children with her husband b/c she was at work when she was to be home, he's a great guy so I didn't stress but he was alone w/ seven kids. After working I picked my kkids up and she was in the bed asleep, husband watched kids?! Should I terminate her?

Answer 1

You need dependable care. I would terminate her. My issue is that she is accepting payment from the state (my hard earned money) to take care of your kids when she is not. This is fraud. I feel that a person with this lack of moral integrity should not watch your children. Furthermore you need to be able to work whenever possible so you can get off of state aid. She does not sound like she is available enough to allow you to do this.

Answer 2

<> As a friend or as your child care provider? There is a reason for that addage to never do business with a friend. YOU chose an unreliable source to provide childcare for your family, that's not HER fault. All she did was accept a job that you couldn't give a decision about. So in the eyes of the employer she wanted the job more than you. When yo sign a contract with an employer even if it is for on call work you are signing with the notion that they can rely on you when they call you...that you WILL be available. If you didn't think you would be available to work why did you sign up to do so in the first place?

Answer 3

NO this is ahelping your friend out. Now her husband is also profiting from the extra income so it will not hurt him to help .I mean it is like her having 2 jobs so he can help out too. You might be in that sitation and need her to do it for you.If she worked at 6 am she was probaly work not. Having 4 kids is hard as you should know with 3. APprciate that you have a good sitter and your kids are safe. You might get a sitter that is not so good tothem..

Answer 4

Yes! Terminate her as soon as possible.

The worst thing a person can do, and I know this from personal experience, is enter into a business type situation with a friend. When things go wrong, people get hurt, get angry and friendships are damaged and lost.

And honsestly, I know she's your friend, but it sounds to me like she's mooching off you and the state for extra cash. I'd stop this as soon as possible. It's not fair to you, and definetely not fair to her husband who had to take care of seven kids on his own.

Answer 5

This will destroy your friendship. You should be putting your own family first - not your friends. You are losing jobs, and losing childcare because of these incidents. Seven children to one caretaker is not even legal (at least here it isnt).
And all this so your kids can sit and watch tv??

Use your funding to get them into a proper daycare where they can make friends, have fun, learn new things and be properly supervised. And you'll never have to turn down a job!

Answer 6

Yes, I would look for a new babysitter. Let your current baby sitter know that you are looking for a new provider. When she asks why ?just let her know that the way you both work it makes it hard for you to get the hours that you would like. That way she does not feel like you are being unfair to her and your friendship should not suffer.

Answer 7

if she works first shift and has help to watch your kids while she takes a nap.I don't see nothing wrong with her husband helping.see was nice enough to offer to help you when she has 4 kids on her own.that makes 7 kids for a whole day that is hard work.unless you go on 3rd shift.

Answer 8

This is your best friend? That is not cool, you need to find someone else. Obviously she's just in it for the money and she doesn't sound very responsible.

Answer 9

yes definately

Answer 10

yes and yes.