2006-09-05 13:56:28 · 18 answers · asked by shy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Children are not responsible for their fathers. Your father has made his own life, whatever that might be. It is certainly mean of him to say such things to you, and he is probably angry and resentful for some reason. But it is not your fault - you did not ask to be born. Sometimes parents are not as adult as they need to be when raising children. Whether it is verbal abuse in the legal sense is probably debatable, but it is certainly not very fatherly.
2006-09-05 14:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this, but my hubby does this to our youngest son, I am sorry that your dad says things like that to you. I always end up arguing with my hubby because I refuse to let him speak to our son that way. It is MENTAL abuse!
Please don't take anything he says seriously, he is saying these thing in anger trust me. I cannot even imagine how you are feeling and I am trying to keep my son from feeling the pain that you are experiencing. Please just ignore it and let it go, You are in NO WAY responsible for your fathers life or the problems that he is experiencing. He is an adult and should be in full control of his actions and words. (adults sometimes really lose it when their child is misbehaving, my 8 year old can really push my buttons). But, you are not a bad child, your dad needs to grow up and get himself together. TAKE CARE and GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-05 21:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by chulita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. He's an adult. You are a child. If his life is screwed up it's his fault. He just doesn't want to take responsibility for his own action (cause he knows they are foul ) and have a scapegoat.
Don't let his handycaps make you feel inferior. He's on his own.
Try to figure out his real reason for blaming you.
It also depends on how old you are.
Love, peace and hair grease!!!
2006-09-06 09:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by mzpickles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he serious or just in a bad mood. I would consider it verbal abuse if he's saying that to you to make you feel bad or if it's false.
2006-09-05 21:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's taking things out on you. I think if it continues, it may be considered abuse.
2006-09-05 21:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be psychological or, perhaps, verbal abuse, especially if there's a pattern of his saying things like that.
Are you okay?
2006-09-05 21:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is abuse when it hurts so deep that it makes you feel so useless and sad that you lose your self-esteem,belive me it will be there when you are older and you wont even know it.
2006-09-05 21:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by racefanz99_2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's in a bad mood and he tells you that one time, no, it's not abuse; if he says it to you every day, it's abuse.
2006-09-05 21:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, you control nobodies life but your own, unless you have a child under 18
2006-09-05 21:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is responsible for his own life... no one else. He has free will to make choices... tell him to make better choices.
2006-09-05 20:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by Sugar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋