I gave all my heart to my last gf.....and it only hurt me alot more in the end. I just would do anything she wanted without thinking for myself. Is it wrong to be too giving?
2006-09-05 13:42:43 · 17 answers · asked by awall71688 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it was not wrong. You now know what it is like to love. This is much better than not ever knowing love. The tricky part now is giving just as much in your next relationship.
2006-09-05 13:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it's wrong to be giving in a relationship. I don't think you did any harm by being selfless. I've had the same things happen to me, and while it essentially hurt me more in the end, I still have no regrets. I know I gave my all, and if that wasn't enough for the person, then it wasn't meant to be. Don't become selfish and resentful the next time around, but if she isn't reciprocating the same you're putting forth, don't heighten your intensity. I agree with what the other girl said in a way; give what you get in return. If you find, one day, you're not getting in return what you once had, maybe it's time to have a talk or go separate ways.
Hindsight it always 20/20.
I wish you well...
2006-09-05 20:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a sense it can be wrong. You need to be sure you're happy yourself too. you can't just do everything for your significant other and leave nothing for yourself it hurts so much more and is a lot harder to pick yourself back up if you are thrown down. I was in a relationship like that b/4 and after that it never happened that way again. You both need to work together on what you both want and things will run a lot more smoothly. Good Luck hun!!!
2006-09-05 20:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Baby_love4482 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I agree with the give what you get. I am also like you. Gave it all and he wanted it all. Broke my heart a long time ago and now don't give a darn, if the person your LOVE doesn't give enough of a darn! As you get with another woman...build the trust together. Not all at once... like a house of cards that you add every OTHER card.. if she doesn't do the same.. it will be a flat house.
2006-09-05 20:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give all you can in every relationship. This way if it doesnt work out, you know you did your best and can move on. Just because a relationship doesnt work out doesnt mean you were doing something wrong, it just might not have been right. Always be the best person you can in every circumstance, you will feel like a better person if you do.
2006-09-05 20:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, take it from a womans point, I am a giving person and if I let one relationship destroy that I am not allowing for the right person to come into my life that might deserve my heart to give too. There is someone that will come along and appericate you even more. Just be patient.
2006-09-05 20:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Wan R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. If you are in a relationship - you still need to maintain your own identity. While you should take the other person into consideration - you need to also take yourself into consideration. No one wants to date someone that only "lives for them". It's boring. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't love themself enough, doesn't take care of themselfs or gets completely lost in a relationship. I think alot of relationships that have potential end up failing because one or both partners begins living only for the other person.
2006-09-05 20:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way yes....You must always remember to put yourself first...ananalyze the situation at hand. Dont be so giving...she took advantage of that situation. See a girl wants a guy yo be giving and loving but also know where to draw the line...maybe you were to available for her.
2006-09-05 20:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro, i've been thru the very thing your asking about, if fact i'm still in it, i work come home she gets the check,i see nothing after it hits Her hands, i say nothing so My son does not have to hear us fight, it truly builds up from time to time,i just leave take a walk just knowing if i had stayed there She would want to fight, good luck bro, i wish you the Best!
2006-09-05 20:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not very fair. She needs to feel she imputs the relationship also. She needs to feel that her choices count and she inspires, supports and you want to do it all. That's no fun to just be on the recieving end. It's sort of overwhelming. Actually, quite overwhelming.
2006-09-05 20:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋