Why do nice guys always get crapped on?

Question

All the girls I have been with screw me around. All my friends, girls and guys say it's because I'm to nice.

Answer 1

I'm guessing your probly young, that sounds like advice young people would give their friend. But let me tell you this. My husband was always the guy that was "too nice" to girls. All his friends were out sleeping around and getting all the girls. Every girlfriend he had did him wrong, cheated on him, or treated him like crap. But he knew that what he was was how he should be. He's 24, and I'm 21 and according to him I am and always have been his dream girl. We met when I was 15 and he was 17 and he liked me from the begining but thought I was out of his league because I guess I'm beautiful in his eyes, and he was a little overweight, and the "nice guy" who didnt get the girl. Well we became best friends and finaly he told me how he felt. We were married just this July and he is the love of my life. He treats me like no other man ever would. I only had 2 boyfriends before him and that was because I was the girl out there looking for the "nice guy". All your buddies gettin all the girls, what quality of girls are they getting? Stay true to yourself, and be the good guy you are and believe me, that girl thats out there looking for you WILL find you, and she will feel like the luckiest girl in the world.

Answer 2

Don't ask why, just stop being the nice guy.

Even if you could find out the reason, it still won't help you, nice guys will still get crapped on like you said, and so will you as long as you stay the same.

Survival of the fittest, it's been the law of nature since the beginning of life. You can adapt and survive, or you get left out.

So don't ask why; ask how - how you can be more successful, and work towards that. And it's not "changing into someone you're not", that never works. You're just becoming a new and improved dudster.

Answer 3

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. I could sit here like all the rest, and feed you a boat load of BS. I am not. I am going to tell you like it is(and you probably already know)hot women do not want nice guys, average joes, or gentlemem. Like their hair, eye color, hair texture and mellon size, what they say they do not want or not happy with. Think of the "Average Joe" reality series on Fox. the Joe never flew off in the jet with the Babe. He left the hanger alone, no matter how much more commited he was, or devoted, or even in better financial shape. As a recent show named after perfect vision pointed out. For you to get noticed by a hot babe you would have to make near $80,000 or more in annual income than the Calvin Klein model pretty boy. People will want to say lame, feckless stuff like "no matter if you win or lose, it is how you played the game", "so long as you did your best, that is all that matters" If it were, you would have some great coaches fighting to coach losing teams. The real in the deal is, women usually go for one of the 3 Cs, Cassanovas, Cads(bad boys), or Cashmen.

Cassanovas are the top of the list. A woman will hunt down a Calvin Klein type pretty boy even if he was as broke as the flea the church mouse brung with him, had a personality of standing tap water, and smart as a light bulb half lit. To make the others jeolous? A good guess. Health and what the babies will look like, most do not even think pass the 1st couple of booty calls. Much less settling gown with the guy. Women want to think they are better or have higher moral intergity than men. They say things like it is not the mans looks but his confidence, wit, charm etc. that a woman falls in love with her heart and her ears. BS, they want eye candy just as much or even more so than men. A man would meet and have sex with a homely girl if she was freaky and had a hot body. Women will not unless she is drunk, high, or something else. Otherwise he better be a Tom Cruise clone.

If he is not a pretty boy, better be some edgy gangster with a foot in the grave, the other in prison. He makes up with his lack of looks by always providing excitment and a bit of danger. Plus is she can "straighten him up" where no other girl has, she can brag that she was MORE woman than them other girls. Like the only man at the rodeo that could last the 8 sec atop the meanest bull. They rarely get a roughneck to stop being one. They just end up with slashed tires, broken hearts, and a lot of baggage.

then comes the cashmen. As one woman put it, "ugly don't stop the car note from being paid". Some women can look beyond the fact that he is not the dimpled Disney prince. If they can avoid moving in with him, or being seen with him too much, they can sashay about in their Prada shoes, Armani waist coal and Gucci hand bag, looking way fly than the poor girl with the toy boy on her arm. And when the girl and her broke pretty boy has to hop in some bucket of a car or on the bus, she gets to wiz away in some fine Jag, Benz, or a Porsche.

After that.......what am I saying? For most women there is nothing after that. Just the less attractive women who hope to get anyone, and they usually find the 80% of the men passed over because they were not in the catagory of the 3 Cs.

Answer 4

Because all women rather they admit it likes a guy that is on the wild side a bit. When you are nice some women don't know how to take it and it is hard for them to accept someone being so nice. A sense of danger is always attractive, hey that is why I fell in love with my husband in the first place.

Answer 5

I don't know how old you are but I bet it has to do with the "age" factor. This will change as you get older. Women want the successful guy, the handsome, tall guy, the guy that is a certain stereotype, what ever that may be. And then we go outside the "box" and try something new, differnt, and it's not what we are use to. That pretty much describes my dating life from age 16-23ish.....Stay true to yourself. The girls are the ones missing out, not you!

Answer 6

I know it may seem that way at times. You just haven't found the right girl yet. Be thankful that you are getting the mean ones out of the way and are learning what to look for in someone you want to have a serious relationship with. The thing to remember is to learn to stand up for yourself without being mean.

Answer 7

Keep being nice and you will find someone equally nice. Don't stop being nice because they are not. Maybe you should look in a different place to find someone to date. You can't be to nice. Just don't let them walk all over you. There are woman who like nice guys. I married a nice guy. Good Luck

Answer 8

It's all about them. What about providing a dating service that would allow you to interview but you won't date your client. You set them up. Learn to have something going that has some mystery and give some advice on the dating.... like that funny movie. You'll learn what women and guys are looking for and whether that's part of what you want. Just a little growing up.

Answer 9

Women don't really like nice guys We like a guy that has a little rough side too them. Nice guys are to easy they let us get are way to much we need a challenge. That where we get are attraction from.

Answer 10

Yup, we always get the crap or nothing, or almosts. We get the moral highground too. If you really treat others as you would want to be treated, and just try to be kind, you will be able to like yourself and sleep at night no matter what happens or doesn't.
Find someone who deserves you. Treat each other well. It gets a little easier as we get older I think. Better odds. Violent jerks tend to kill each other or go to jail, then the women will come to us.