I have a guy friend that I've known for years..we've dated before but now we're just friends. Whenever we hang out we end up staying out very late and i live very far. I've slept over at this house a couple times.Once we kissed, and though he tried other stuff..I didn't let him...the other time, he also tried to start something but I again didn't let him. Now, whenver we stay out late, he'll make sure to drop me off home eventhough i live so damn far. He will do everything to avoid me to sleep over.What does this mean? We've kissed and he said we better remain as friends..but he gives me mixed signals like:I'm a good grl and he wants a good girl...and then he'll say he'll never introduce me to one of his friends because his friend and I would probably end up getting married. But he doesnt seem to want to get back with me. I don't get all this. He specifically told me we should just remain friends after we kissed.
2006-09-05 13:04:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He also says sex is for after marriage and I agree.But then he tries things on me. I'm so confused..I really like him. I'd like a relationship with him but I don't think he does. Does he just want to use me?Please help
2006-09-05 13:05:52 · update #1
Honey, I am an old man of 73, but I would dump this guy quick!!
2006-09-05 13:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by stullerrl 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you've a number of concepts in this question and that i have not considered area a million... Regardless, that is purely plausible that our modern-day religions _all_ grew out of a primordial faith and are basically transformations of that unique faith. (upload: i'm no longer retaining it really is the case, notwithstanding that is a danger -- there are various of elementary teachings shared between different religions.) the 2d element is that faith would not reason conflict, guy does. guy is totally to blame of making use of faith as a device to foster their own targets, even with the reality that they could nicely be. At their base element, few, if any, religions promote wars; maximum promote non violent relationships between peoples. To trust that faith actually causes conflict ought to characterize that the international courtroom ought to haul a faith in and performance it stand trial for conflict crimes... I even haven't any more all started to be certain that take position. TDs envisioned from those who disagree.
2016-12-06 11:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by kelm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously contradicting the things he is telling you. If he says he wants a good girl then why is he doing things expecting you to be otherwise? If he says that he doesn't want to have sex with you before marriage, why is he trying just that?
Sometimes guys pretend to be what a girl wants them to be just to get closer and to make the girl drop their guard down. Then they hope that things could work their way when things get heated up.
If you don't understand the way he is trying to deal with you then he is obviously not open or close enough to you as you wish he was. Perhaps it is best you sort things out about what exactly he needs from you. From what you are saying looks like what he wants is a (pardon my language) f*** buddy. Not a girl friend, but a friend to have sex with.
2006-09-05 13:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by kevinrtx 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like many men, he's torn by his desire for sex and his desire to be a "good guy". Even men who are "religious" have the same strong sexual drive God has gifted them with. At least he is honorable enough to tell you his intentions which are:
1) Not to marry you
2) Not to take advantage of you, since he obviously is not interested in marriage, or he probably wouldn't have said he just wanted to be "friends".
I wouldn't stay over at his house anymore. You should definitely find a guy that likes you and who would consider marriage with you. But also find one who is "honorable" and "honest" like your "friend" appears to be.
Your friend also sounds a little "mixed up". Find another guy. There are plenty out there. Take your time. Find one who will love you, take care of you, protect you, put your interests first, and will give you all the good in life that you deserve.
2006-09-05 13:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by LL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this guy obviously cares about you a lot. You can tell because he is respecting your wishes about waiting for marriage. He probably dosen't want to take any chances with you because you may break up with him. Just tell him that you love when your together, but you don't want to go all the way. This guy seems really nice, so I'm sure he'll understand.
Hope I helped!
2006-09-05 13:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he wants to do the right thing but is strugling with temptation. you should talk to somone.
your mom or dad would be ideal but a youth pastor or conseler is very adicate. i would stay away from people too young or who are not christians because they usualy dont have the maturity to deal with this sort of thing.
my advice although i am not shure i am mature enouph in my walk with christ, is to leave him. you can remain friends but stay away from compramising situations. stay with the right crowds with people who show the same values and will not allow you to fall into temtation.
even though he is wrestling this you must too. sex is always two peoples desision. you must suport him and strengthen yourself against temtation.
i dont know what your relationship with your parents is but if they or his parents could always go with you (even an overprotective big brother is good although not always pleasant) then you would not have the chance to fall.
you need to know that your choice is right. if you are intimate with him then IT WILL DESTROY your relationship. you will not be able to stand eachother after that.
if you want to know when you are realy in love a good test is if you would be willing to never have sex or anything for yourself if you could just give them joy.
if you get into a fight you both need to be willing to lose so you can remain close without it ever efecting your relationship.
if you want i could send you a copy of a book that has helped me a ton. i dont know how i would get it to you. but i would be willing to type it and send it in a email if you want.
you may contact me at quaeritoveritas@yahoo.com
god bless
2006-09-05 14:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by quaeritoveritas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see how this is has anything to do with religion, except for the whole sex before marriage, although in this day in age, it's more common for people to have sex before marriage.
But to answer your question, perhaps it has more to do with him then you. He says he wants to be friends, but kisses you in the way couples would. And most friends typically don't kiss like that, unless there with the whole friends with benefits thing. What you need to do is talk to him and see what kind of relationship you have or what kind he and you want. Do you want to be friends or do you want to be a couple?
2006-09-05 13:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Linds 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very possibly he's dropping you off at home because he respects you and doesn't want to put either of you in "harms way". by saying we're remaining friends might make things easier -- come on, you know when you start kissing and the feelings intensify it's hard to pull apart. sometimes it's just easier to not start - maybe that is what he's doing.
2006-09-05 13:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by Marysia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should stop going at his house because he is just using you all boys are the same,all boys want to have relationship so stop going at his house the next thing you know you might be pregnant.
2006-09-05 13:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by sakura 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems to like you but he doesn't want you all to get caught up in the moment and give in to temptation. By dropping you at your house he is making sure he eliminates the temptation.
2006-09-05 13:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is just using you. don't fall for it. I have a girlfriend who is in the same boat and she did fall for it- needless to say she went pretty far with him and got her heart broken. Even if he doesn't want a relationship with you it will make him sad to see you with another guy. He doesn't want you to be happier than him.
2006-09-05 13:11:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋