I have a feeling that my sister in-law is jealous of me. For one thing, she's 21, married, has a 16th month old daugther, is a house wife with a GED while her husband works full-time in the Construction business and yes, he makes money and is supporting her and their daughter. The thing is, she is jealous in what I have and get from my own husband. I'm 25, married, no children yet, I am a house wife, college graduate and know that when I got engaged my husband had bought and given me a really nice engagement ring worth a lot while the engagment ring she got from her own husband was decent, but not as good as mine. She used the word "jealous" in a sentence like, "April, I am SO jealous of you and I sure do love your engagement ring!!" Her husband was nice enough to buy her a ring that he could afford from Sears while my husband bought me a ring that he could afford from a place you don't need to know.
2006-09-05 12:32:50 · 12 answers · asked by Bobcat9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Anyways, over this past weekend I went to go visit my in-laws. My sister in-law had gone to a mall recently and found this cute dress worth $65 for her daughter except she thought that $65 was too much and told my mother in-law and I that she couldn't afford it. Right when she said that, she looked at me cause she knows that I could afford it. I got offended cause she has no right to be jealous of me. Maybe if she wants nice stuff like clothing and etc .. perhaps she should get a job? I thought she had a problem with a dress costing $65 at the mall, but she had no problem wasting $700 on a recent puppy that she got. I'm like, "What's her problem?" What do you guys think?
2006-09-05 12:42:56 · update #1
Help her remember the good things she has (or that what you have is realistic and not perfect, too).
I have a friend, and every time I visit with her, I tell her how jealous I am of her lifestyle. It's exactly the opposite of mine. And then she runs thru all the things that stress her out, and I remember that just because it's not what I have, it's not necessarily better!
Also, maybe her husband needs to remind her about the reasons she married him. Maybe you could drop him (your brother?) a little hint, or offer to babysit, so that they could get in a refresher-course evening.
2006-09-05 12:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't worry about it. If she is willing to spend sleepless nights over what you get vs. what she gets, then that's her problem. But don't show animosity towards her, because that would just escalate the intensity of the situation. Laugh it off whenever she mentions that she's jealous, don't dwell on what your husband gives you, and try and not make comparisons between herself and you. That way, you can focus on other more important things and not have to worry about the impression she has of you.
2006-09-05 19:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by nerdlovercl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you are a very rude and boastful person. I can't even believe that you would post this stuff as a reason for your sister in-law to be jealous of you! Your family for goodness sake, how about trying to be supportive instead of high on yourself? You might actually feel better if you do!
2006-09-05 19:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Foo Foo Girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess my only words of advice would be to help her see all the things that she has...maybe you should say that you're jealous that she has such a beautiful daughter or something like that. Idk to me it just seems like people don't realize what they have when they have someone around them that seems to have soooo much more than them. Or you could point out the things that aren't so good in your life too just to let her know that you're not necessarily living the fairy tale kinda life.
2006-09-05 19:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by 31flavors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Handle your sister in-law with love.. she obviously needs it... be understanding that she is jealous.. don't brag and show her you care about her as a person.. she will soon develope and better relationship with you and learn to care about you for you.. not what you have... Good Luck :)
2006-09-05 19:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by ghill4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it . . . you don't fight with her. So what is the problem? She is younger than you and she will grow up some day. Maybe she is materialistic. That may never change. But it sounds to me that there is no real problem.
2006-09-05 19:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by mistymeadoww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she is are my be she isn't she is not happy with herself but you don't have to say that she has a GED because that makes you look like you are trying to dog her out because you want to college that makes you look like you think you are better and stuck up
2006-09-05 19:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by monica h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as though you are way too self-centered for words. As difficult as this may be to believe... NOT everything is about you.
2006-09-05 19:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T THINK SHE'S JEALOUS,I JUST THINK YOU LIKE TO BRAG TOO MUCH! LET SOME OF THE AIR OUT OF YOUR HEAD HUNNY. NOT EVERYONE CAN AFFORD THINGS LIKE THAT. AND IF YOU HAVE A COLLEGE DEGREE,WHY AREN'T YOU WORKING?
2006-09-05 19:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by lisa j 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. She's just expressing how beautiful she thinks your ring is.
2006-09-05 19:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋