Ordinarily I despise/fear online matchmaking but 2 of my close friends have met really great people from it. One of them is actually getting married after dating the guy for 4 years. My friends told me to try, but I still have my doubts. I think I might be better off just meeting people in person. What do you all think?
2006-09-05 12:26:05 · 14 answers · asked by naijababy425 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say try it for a while. Keep yourself open to all possibilities. I did the online thing. I didn't like it. I have three friends who met their love online. Now they are married. I can't stand it!!! But they aren't like me. I flirt and date differently. I have been meeting great people doing it my own way. Take an interesting class. At least you know you have the same interests and he/she has a brain! I'm a shy person and the only way I could break out of it was to put myself out there and not have the security of being anonymous through a computer. Now I have more confidence, my social skills have improved and I've been meeting great guys and friends. I say do what feels comfortable, not what the masses do. Their way is not the only way. The online stuff is always a last resort for me. I prefer to get some sun and look for a cutie. Have fun and good luck!!!
2006-09-05 12:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by sugar1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't realistic. An example, I once talked with a girl through a dating site a lot. Every single email we wrote each other was pages long, deep and meangingful, and fun. When we finally met in person, I tried to make conversation, she didn't communicate at all. The date was terrible. Basically, online dating doesn't capture the important things that happen in real life dating, like the human interaction part of it. There has to be a certain chemistry in the air, you can't get that with online dating through the net.
You won't be spending you life talking through email, you'll be spending it looking at each other eye to eye, communicating in person, not behind a keyboard and screen. In real life, once you meet someone, you know right then and there most of the time if it's possible for this to work. Online, it's all a guessing game until you actually meet in person and really talk.
Some people get very lucky with it.
2006-09-05 19:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would rather meet someone in person. Those dating sites are good, but most people don't talk about their flaws on there, just their good qualities (which, by the way, are the qualities they think they have)... profiles on those sites are biased towards the person, so I don't know how accurate they are. Anyway, there are a lot of people who find people they eventually marry online, but we don't know how long these marriages last. Online dating is so new, that we don't know how short or long lived these relationships end up being. It's a lot different talking to someone online and seeing them a few times a month than living with them and seeing them every day.
2006-09-05 19:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by <3 Kaitlyn* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought like you until... Yes about 3 years ago I went on-line and felt like the biggest loser ever. On there I chatted with some winners and lots of losers. The users you could spot almost immediately but still had to be careful. Then I began chatting with a beautiful artist who lived about 2.5 hours from me. We met for a coffee and a talk a little while later and we (like your friend) are getting married next May 20. We met on Findsomeone.com, which at the time was free but I believe there is a charge for this service now. Good luck to you, and what do you have to lose by giving it a shot. It's not like people you'll be chatting with will ever know who you are, unless you decide to meet any of them. Best of luck again.
2006-09-05 19:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the people you meet at art shows. It requires the art lovers to percieve others and understand the expressions. Of course, you will find shallow showy people but you will also find the deep thoughtful ones and they usually are gentle people or quite amusing. Look for art show openings on a friday nite. You can always go out to coffee or dancing to discuss what you have seen and you can go alone or with a group. You can dress up or just be different. Have fun. These are real live people and they can't fake stuff as easily.
2006-09-05 19:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try. I met my girlfriend through a personal ad, and spent over $200 on the service, (meeting and dating various women) but I look at as quite a deal. I met someone really great! The money is gone, but I've got what I want, and its worth far more than some wad of cash.
2006-09-05 19:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by patrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that some can be bad sites. However there are good dating sites. I met my current boyfriend on a dating site. We talked for awhile, then decided to meet. We hit it off the first night. We have been seeing each other since. He is an awesome man, knows what he wants out of life but most of all he treats me great:).
2006-09-05 19:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy_Gemini_Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little dangerous. People often only tell you what they want you to know.....
Also, don't look in a bar or nightclub for a mate...unless you want an alcoholic for a spouse!
Get involved in worthy causes that are important to you and you will find worthy people with like interests.
2006-09-05 19:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by SeraMcKay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can try it but you have to be honest. Then that way you'll find someone who is compatible with you. After that, you will meet and then you'll see if you truly click. It won't hurt you to just give it a try...
2006-09-05 19:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by nerdlovercl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some are OK but stay away from True.com-they are very expensive & will rip you off!
There are 2 totally free ones-plentyoffish.com & webdate.com-Good luck,Honey!
2006-09-05 19:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋