Is it normal for family to have arguement most of the time?

Question

My wife says that my family is not normal because we dont have alot of arguements when we are together. She thinks there is something is just not right. It is causing alot of strife between me and her. She is from a family that seems to argue each time we see them. I stay out of the fights and she gets mad at me when I dont take her side. I dont like to argue and that is all me and her seem to do because she does not let me be me. When my family gets together we enjoy it alot more when she is not there. I have two kids and they argue all the time and I want to change it,but I have no support because she thinks it is normal. HELP

Answer 1

For me its not a normal situation .. I know my husband family is the opposite but it helps that my husband is like we do not allow it. I am a firm believer that if you are going to act like a child, scream and hollar instead of being a adult to talk things out - there is nothing to be said. In addition this is something that I would never put my children through. Seek counseling with your wife regarding this, if you are fighting @ home in front of the children it does have a impact on them.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 2

Nobody's family is normal by her standards. Every family has it's quirks. Neither fighting too much or at all is wrong, it is in the resolution of the arguements that determines the right or wrong. as long as the arguements are solved with facts and with discussion instead of fist's and foul language, there is nothing wrong with that at all. Now, sibling's should be allowed to argue with each other, it is a good way for them to vent frustrations. Especially if they don't have an alternate outlet.

Answer 3

Some families do argue all the time. She is just from a different kind of family then how you grew up. Be patient with her and try to stop your two children from arguing. They might be picking that up from your wife's family.

Answer 4

I'm not trying to be mean here, but your wife is NUTS!!!!!!
Her family sounds a lot like mine, and your family sounds a lot like my hubby's. It took me a long time to get used to everyone being so NICE all the time.
My children argue all the time too, as a matter of fact they are on restriction right now for fighting. It is NOT NORMAL behavior, and I am going to call our Physician tomorrow and see if we can go in for some counseling. Your wife sounds like me, A LOT like me. She is being VERY stubborn about her up-bringing, but she needs to let it go and become a better person and mother for her children. It isn't healthy to grow up around all that yelling and fighting. GOOD LUCK to you all!!!!!

Answer 5

It really depends on the family. If you are not happy with the arguing, you really need to talk more seriously about it with your wife. She needs to understand your point of view. I don't particularly care for a lot of arguing. I would also prefer that my significant other didn't. I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Stop doing what she don't like! write down all she do and study the list,Cross out anything that doesn't make you happy- and isn't completely necessary..You only hear so much negative things before getting fighting..arguing each other.It's does happen in a joint family..but nothing to be worried much about it..Don't take it seriously..

Answer 7

You are passive. As so is your whole family. You don't mind if someone walks all over you or your spouse or your ideals. It's just peachy keen. I'm okay, you're okay.

Your wife is agressive. As so is her whole family. They are passionate protectors of their ideals and of their spouses. It's just war. I'm okay, you're an @$$hole.

So this is the picture. You're wife is the dominant agressor and you are the submissive flower. Perhaps she wishes she had more of a caveman for a husband. Maybe you need a woman who is a bigger coward than you?

Answer 8

She is embarrassed that you see her family argue. The kids will argue no matter what you do. Tell her that your family does argue, they just don't do it while she is there. She will feel better and you will be telling the truth.

Tell her that you don't care that her family argues, you love her regardless.

Answer 9

A family that argues together stays together.

Answer 10

I think that it is normal to have some bickering or tiffs, I don't think it's abnormal to visit with your family and not fight. It usually makes for a more relaxing visit if you can get along, it's uncomfortable to be around people who are always fighting.