I have a friend that I have fallen for, and I know that I can never tell him because i just found out on monday that he is love with someone else. He is a bass player in a band, and what i am in town i never miss a gig, and there is one on Friday. He knows I am in town. But I know that his love intrest might be there on Friday. So my question to you is... Should I go on friday or not? I do'n really want to see him with her, I think it would hurt to much, but on the other hand if she isn't there I will get to spend some time wth him. What should I do???????
2006-09-05 12:16:06 · 27 answers · asked by Tanya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question is... WHY did you used to go and see him perform? Is is to support him & his band playing or just that you liked him and just wanted to see him?
I suggest... you still go, to at least support HIM, you might not know it but people see & appreciate these things. If you want to approach him, do it before you see him & her together and then you will just have to see what happens after there.
But AT LEAST remain really good friends with him and continue to support him & the band ok :-)
2006-09-05 12:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by BaByHugH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have his number? If so call him before you go on Friday. Talk to him and try to arrange a time and a place the two of you can meet up at and have a one on one. I call situations like this 'Do Or Die'. You are in a spot where you can lose him or make that leap and get him in your life the way you want to. Talk to him and lay everything out there. It is possible that he does not care for this other girl as much has you think. He could be harboring the same feelings you have for him, but like you he is afraid to say something. Talk about it all and see if there is a shot of the two of you being together. If there is not one in the future or at all, stay true and still be his friend. As much as it WILL hurt, be there for him and happy for him. He has found someone that he believes makes him happy and everyone deserves that. As for the show, go to it. If you run, that gives more lead way to the other woman and it can just hurt you in the long run if you have a chance.
2006-09-06 17:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should soooo go if you don't get anything out of it from being there at least you'll see him...dose this guy know u like him?? couse if you'v gone to every gig he could just think you are being a supportive friend....if that other girl is there don't worry about it...i know this may sound gay but everything happends for a reason...ok summer go but look hott have a good time don't worry about the other girl and try hintting to him that u like him ...but not to much untell further notice with this other girl
2006-09-05 19:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you already have the knowledge that he is dating someone else, shouldn't you get your original. What if you have a fling and get hurt. Have you considered that or you are just being consumed in the here and now fun. There are quite a number of nice single blokes out there. Open your eye and ask for God's assistance.
2006-09-05 19:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by namski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to torture yourself like this? Why haven't you mentioned your feelings for him before he fell for someone? The only options you have is to tell him how you feel and see what happens or you can be his friend and accept the fact that he is with someone else. Do this before Friday and then you will know whether you can handle going or not.
2006-09-05 19:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Player in the band.You know this man goes to many places,so,he can has women everywhere.But knowing that real fact,is up to you if you go.My advice: go,enjoy the music,and see what destiny have stored for you,good luck.But you already know:he can has more than one woman,anyplace he goes.I know,because I was playing in a rock band too.Be happy,smile,please.
2006-09-05 19:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First who lives where? are you visiting his town or vice versa is he with this band coming into your town?Well at any rate let me tell ya about musicians........AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
I dated a music producer for 6.5 years these so called "musicians"are the lowest scum of earth dont waste your time sweetheart,they are all players of the worst kind,if you think any musician would commit to you FORGET about it,,not to knowledge with all the girls are you kidding me? Don't bother your just in lust believe me save your heart from disaster,i am piking up the pieces finally after 6.5 years of torment and pain and tears,believe me if someone could of warned me i would've at least visualized the possibilities that this man would actually have turned out to b the worst mistake of my life.good luck
2006-09-05 19:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by neshlov 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go regardless. You say that you have fallen for him. This implies that you care for him. If you truly care for him, would you not wish him to be happy? Even if it is not with you? It is painful to see people that you care for with other people, but you were friends first, and you should go and support your friend. You may still have a good time. It may not be your time with him. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Remember it is your friend.
2006-09-05 19:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one time at band camp.....
LOL - Do this, before Friday walk up to him and give him a kiss, afterward tell him how you feel. He'll forget about the other girl.
2006-09-05 19:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dude's got a girlfriend. Unless you're into love triangles, I suggest you move on to better game. Why go through all the hassle, accusations, mind games, etc. It's not worth it.
2006-09-05 19:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋