not only that we have the age gap but he's my brother's close friend. we've been hinding it for 7 months now. we've been living together and thats how it started as friends first then the feelings came Honestly, we've been though so much to the point where we dated other people and then we finally got back together. It's hard living with him and hiding it from everyone in the house.He's so afraid that this will break up the friendship with all the guys.With everything that has happened, we're taking things slow. we don't know if we shoud tell my brother and our friends . we're not so far on the stages of our lives. i have my goals and ive finished school then went into culinary profession. ive done the 21+ for years now and so ive experience life faster then some 18 year olds. my friends are 24+ so my goals are not so different.i really love him and he loves me. we dont know what to do. we just need to hear it from another point of view.
2006-09-05 12:15:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie I'm 23 and the guy I'm seeing is 35!!! I started dating him since I too was 18 going on 19!!! I met him on my 18th birthday through my brother. The only difference is that he was engaged at the time!! about 10 months later I bumped into him at the mall and we had lunch...We've been dating since!!! Don't get me wrong, we did go thru a heck of alot to get to where we are now. But I felt he was worth the effort.. and I was right... As long as you love him & you are 100% he loves you.. then go for it and about the friendship with the"guys" If they're your friends like you say they are, then they'll understand... They might be alittle shocked but they'll come around!!! TRUST ME... I personally went thru it and now my whole family is closer to him than ever!!! P.S. he asked me to marry him last month & I couldnt be happier!!! Good Luck and God Bless!!!
2006-09-05 13:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it could work. I have heard Dr. Drew from Loveline say the same thing numerous times about these types of relationships. I am not doubting that you are mentally mature for your age but often there is simply just too much to overcome in these types of relationships. I am a 31 year old man and simply cannot imagine having a solid relationship with someone that is 18. There simply aren't enough common interests there to sustain a long lasting healthy relationship. Remember that although you may not realize it, there is a major generation gap there. Generations think quite differently. They grew up on the same type of humor, entertainment, political views (mostly), and current events. I know for a fact that younger generations think in an entirely different manner than mine. Almost across the board on all issues. I am not saying that everyone in a particualr generation thinks the same, but there are bonds there that separate them from other generations. And dating outside of your age group or generation isn't something that would have a good chance of being successful.
2006-09-05 12:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by cannonball 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know all of the details of your situation so I can't provide the best answer for you. What I can say is that your shouldn't have to hide your relationship......if you are hiding it, then you are either doing something wrong.......or you don't have good friends who understand you well. I think 18 is too young for 30 because typically you are at different stages in your life. You are still finding yourself as an adult and the 30 year old is already set in their ways. But if you are as mature as you say you are, and you are both on the same page with things (like life, marriage, kids, religion, jobs, etc...) and you make each other happy, then go for it. But again, you shouldn't have to hide anything...and you aren't going to be able to keep this secret forever. Find a way to tell them - you will feel better getting the truth out there. Then you two can focus on having a healthy relationship. Just my thoughts. Good luck.
2006-09-05 12:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by saraelsa78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes afraid it will break up the friendship with the guys, I don't understand how and why that would or should happen. but what ever you both feel in your hearts about each other should be enough to be together no matter who knows about it. Love is Love and it shouldn't be taken away because of not wanting to lose friends . Go with your heart and your true honest feelings and take it from there .
2006-09-05 12:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't say it can't work because anything is possible. There is 10 years difference between my wife and I and we have been together 8 years now.
The difference, though... We met at an older age then you. We had both been married before. Even though younger she had served her time in our military and had allot of "life experience" behind her.
Unless he is emotionally 21, I would have to say this will be a tough one to make work over the long haul.
2006-09-05 12:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the relationship going, the answer is obvious.
You can't hide it from people. It will only cause stress and anxiety for everyone. It will cause the demise of you two as a couple.
Secondly, I have issues with the fact that you live with him, and he's still "hiding you" from him friends.
Of COURSE you should tell your brother and your friends. Hows does your brother not know where you live??
Just come clean. If you can't, or if he can't, then it will never work.
2006-09-05 12:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 18!! why can't you just enjoy your youth before getting into this type of relationship. i don't understand you young girls. why the rush? there is a big gap between your age and his. he loves you? for how long? until he find another young girl? i think you really need to think this over enjoy your life. you don't want to hit an older age and regret all the things you did not get to do. he already enjoy his youth. it's nice that you have feeling for him, but when he start getting older and looking old are you still going to be there? think about it?
2006-09-05 12:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, even if it lasts for a while he'll turn into a couch potato long before you're ready. On the bright side the odds favor you living long enough to spend all of his life insurance :)
2006-09-05 12:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by white_yack 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you expect them make a major decision based on what you thought of what they are doing? Live your own life and it really doesn't matter what others think. That is a challenging age difference, follow your instincts. Good Luck!!
2006-09-05 12:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got two names for yah...sister
Michael ( I play the same damn person in every movie I make with the exception of Falling Down) Douglas
And Catherine Zeta (should have been my damn wife) Jones
Enough said good luck
2006-09-05 12:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by omenus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋