My boyfriend is living in Georgia and i'm in Montana. He's in a school play and his part is Prince Charming so he has to kiss a girl or two in the part. I have never been kissed and have always been saving it for that special person. And I love and care about my boyfriend so much. And it's killing me to know that he is hanging out with some girl for 6 weeks and then has to kiss her. Have any encouraging words of advice?!?!?
2006-09-05 12:07:47 · 44 answers · asked by Lissie D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Grow up.
2006-09-05 12:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Maxwell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel! Well sort of. I was (and still am) a big theatre geek and always got cast as the female romantic lead, which usually meant I had to kiss a guy. My bf, was really shy and much like you. It was tough for us, but I assured him that a stage kiss is totally different from a real kiss- THEY DON'T MEAN ANYTHING!!!:) Although he knew this, it was still pretty discouraging. Just try to remember that this is something required of a part in a play, that he is not doing this randomly to some girl in the hallway. I told him to not think of it as me on stage kissing someone else, but to think of it as theatre is- Totally different people on stage. It was Oberon and Titania kissing, not Stina and James. That helped him a lot.
Also, have you heard of stage kissing? You may want to suggest it to your boy. One of the ways to do it is the shorter person (usually the female) tilts their head slightly upward and to the side so most of the back of it is facing the audience. It gives the illusion of kissing, without actually having to touch lips. This may require some practice, but when done correctly can give the illusion that the two characters are actually kissing.
Don't worry, everything will be great. Just relax and express your concerns to him so that he can try to understand where you're coming from. Good luck!
2006-09-05 12:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Stina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a tough situation.
I understand that you really care about him, but he is in a different state, and you can't monitor everything he does.You do make a very good point that spending six weeks with these other girls and then kissing them can be a little nerve racking. You can't monitor his every activity. So you have to trust that he is only thinking of you. Kissing these other girls is a part of the play so you will have to just understand that its just a play. As long as he's not starting a relationship with these other girls you'll have nothing to worry about.
From my personal experience long distance relationships don't work. I don't know how old you are. But if your young then you should try to focus more on relationships that you can have with boys that go to your school and live where you live. But if you insist on trying to make it work then you will have to trust him completely. Just remember that it's a play and he is only playing a role. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-09-05 12:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by RelationGuru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my teens, I was the lead in several amateur productions many moons ago, and i was so freaked out about snogging people other than my boyfriend that I would do ANYTHING not to do the snogging scene...
looking back (17 years - aarrgghh!) I really do wish that when I played 'Sandy' in 'Grease' I had gone ahead and had a good snog-up with the male lead. Just because it would have given me more confidence with my own boyfriend. I guess what I would now call 'snogging confidence'. I didnt REMOTELY fancy ANY of the lead boys I ever played opposite - bleeuggh - SOOO not my type - but the whole kissing scenario can get overblown and over-estimated and its very nerve-wracking when you are in your teens.
Your boyfriend is with you because he is with you and he fancies YOU!! believe me, if he didnt, i am sure he could get plenty of snog situations with other girls, without being in school plays. When you are a teen, it always feels like you dont have those opportunities...but when you look back, you just think 'wow, I was well pretty and people DID fancy me!'
The school play is just a fun thing to be in, and the girl he has to kiss probably feels to him - like some dressmaker's dummy to kind of practice on - dearest, YOU are the real lassie and you are the girl he wants to snog! have some confidence in yourself, and if you still feel lousy, get out there and do some amateur dramatics yourself so you will realise that that kind of stuff is all make-believe silly pretending... Please don't worry about having a few snog-ups with boys. Its not a sinful thing and its really really normal and helps you to understand what works (sexually) for you - you will soon learn what kind of kissing technique is the most comfy for you (and believe me - it wont be on a stage in front of a 200 people!)
2006-09-05 12:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by zuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a kiss is not a kiss if its just acting
i was kissed on the lips by my old aunt when I was 10 and I think I still had never been "kissed"
the stage kiss isn't the problem, the problem is the hanging out, that is a lot more dangerous to a relationship
i had a few stage kisses when I was in high school theatrical productions and in my case there was nothing to enjoy, people all looking at you, the girl that couldn't care less about you, the fear of everybody judging you
no, not a kiss to worry anybody's significant other
2006-09-05 12:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a movie in a scene where I was part of a biker gang that raped a woman. I mentioned it to my wife, who had no problem with that. Then later I teased her and said I had a scene where I was supposed to kiss a woman. At first she made out like there was no problem with that. Then the next day, she pinched me and said "Did you really kiss a girl in the movie?", to which I had to confess I was joking about that part, or continue to be pinched.
She didn't have a problem with me in a scene where I rape a girl...but pretending to kiss a girl...boy that was a different story!
The moral of this story: It's nice you're a little jealous, that means you care. But just remember it's only acting, it's not real.
2006-09-05 12:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by Movie Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not quite sure I understand. So you & your bf use to live in the same city and now live in dif states? How is it you have a bf that you have never kissed unless you met him online. Well if he is truly serious about you honey then don't be worried. To love someone means to trust them also to. There can be no love without trust. And it's just a play; he's only acting out a part. He is not really kissing them. So be comforted sweet young girl; don't worry - it's not a real kiss he's giving her; it's an acting kiss. He is only acting. Just like when actor's rehearse for the movies we watch. It's not real. They have their own wives and girlfriends in their real life. They are just doing their jobs being actors and actresses. So you be of good cheer darling girl!
2006-09-05 12:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by youcandoit_47 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
quiet down in the journey that your boyfriend is a robust and dedicated guy or woman he won't see this kiss as a great deal. in keeping with risk attempt to tell him the form you sense yet remember he won't be able to alter what happens interior the play. Kissing human beings is performs is in simple terms component to performing. Why do not you bypass and notice him rehearse or maybe attempt to communicate to the girl he's going to be kissing. in case you fairly meet her then in keeping with risk you mustn't be as jealous, attempt to help him he will want you to be there for him whilst he's making waiting for the play and could not want the extra rigidity. Of you being jealous with regard to the play.
2016-11-24 23:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by mccuistion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just a play, relax. It's only acting. However you have a long distance relationship. The only one ending up happy in most situations from these is AT&T.
2006-09-05 12:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by inpoetry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that this is a play ..."acting" if you and your boyfriend have a long distance relationship and are still managing to make it last, Im sure you have nothing to worry about. At least you know you can trust your boyfriend....He did at least tell you he was going to be in a play in which he would be lip-locking with another girl.....MOST guys wouldn't even tell his girlfriend that he was going to do that...Maybe your lucky maybe he wants you to be jealous. idk. You should tell him how you feel. and tell him if it makes you uncomfortable.
2006-09-05 12:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Angelwings87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont goto the play...unless your boyfriend is expecting to see you there...just dont watch the part where he kisses and pretend its you instead....and dont be afraid to tell you boyfriend that your jealous or any other word you want to use.
2006-09-05 12:09:44 · answer #11 · answered by jgbaek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋