2006-09-05 12:00:42 · 15 answers · asked by namski 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) Love: my definition of love is this: u care for someone SO MUCH that u want the BEST for him, his happines is put above yours. find someone who feels the same way about you, so that he cares about you SO MUCH that he wants the BEST for you, your happines is put above his. :) it's not easy, but it's awesome!
2) Trust/Honesty: ability to Trust Him, and His ability to Trust You
3) Commitment: ability to commit... to friends, family, you, hobbies, activities
4) Communication: open mindedness, able to share anything and everything with you w/o fear of judgement
5) Responsibility: taking care of things, relationships, and being responsible for his words and actions
6) Motivation: to learn, and be better. always seeking to do what is right, best, better...in work as well as relationships
7) Positivity: to have a good outlook on life, on situations... be able to get thru things in a Positive, Healthy manner
8) Good Manners/Know how to treat a Woman, family, friends, be polite, caring, understanding
9) Appearance: caring about how he portrays himself to the world, as a reflection of you, as your partner. just as you should do, take care of how u look and portray yourself to his family and friends, the best to ur ability, as a reflection of him
10) Happiness: one of the KEY indicators in a Healthy, Positive relationship...if u are happy. if he is happy. if something is off, if u are constantly unhappy, miserable, feel trapped, or unappreciated...those are bad, negative indicators that the relationship is NOT gonna get any better after marriage.
This is extremely hard to find, and most likely impossible! but that doesn't mean it's not worth it to constantly strive for the best, to be YOUR best as a wife, and for your guy to be HIS best as a husband. of course we're all gonna make mistakes! but that is why, when we love eachother, we forgive the mistakes..and keep on chugging away at making eachother Happier, Healthier, Better. growing the relationship. :) i have a great bf, but we have a lot of ups and downs..we are still learning how to take care of eachother, and satisfy eachother. but i'm not gonna marry him til i KNOW deep inside that i TRUST him to do what is best for me, and by me. and i want to make sure I am accountable as well, that i am doing what is best for him, and by him. so far i've been doing my duty.. him...not as much! haha..but he's trying, and that's ALL that matters. i'm not perfect either..which is why i have to try so hard to be better, to learn more, to figure out what he needs and wants!! that's what i do, and that's what i want from my future hubby. good luck and happy hunting! :)
2006-09-05 12:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. - Know the difference between LOVE and LUST! Lust has a tendency to be VERY short lived and is not a god foundation for a long lasting relationship. Love, on the other hand, can get relationships through the 'ugly' times and make the good times that much better.
2. - Compatible belief systems I am not necessarily talking about religion, but that helps too. I mean if you BOTH believe enough about the same things, a MAJORITY of the same things that you can agree on, this will make marriage longer lasting!
3. - Allow any differences to make you stronger NOT tear you down and apart. Of course in any relationship, there will always be some disagreements, that is normal. The trick is to NOT allow those differences to cause one to break apart! If those differences have the capacity of doing that, perhaps you should not be with that person.
3. - See #1!
2006-09-05 12:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by walterhawthorneiii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick a person you can trust! Trust is the key in a marriage. If you don't have trust it can and will be very very difficult (speaking from experience).
Respect. A person you respect and respects you!
Financial Responsibilities. Make sure you have that straightened out before saying I do. I recently got married and that is a huge problem! Money can make it break a marriage!!!
Know that person for a long time before saying I do.
Live with that person. Thats a big plus.
Those are the keys!!
2006-09-05 12:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Stuart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a million) 5 year plan - what are both or your targets and how will that artwork in case you get married? 2) youthful little ones - you need to talk your ideas about relatives - do no longer wait in this communique - you both both choose youthful little ones or you do not - and numbers are significant (would not recommend have them now, basically skill you need to both have an same opinion for even as the time comes) 3) funds - mutually? separate? a ltitle of both? those are my actual 3...of direction everybody is diverse yet i think targets, youthful little ones and money are the large arguments so that is more effective to commence off on an same web page.
2016-12-06 11:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look for honesty..and tell him to anwer this..if he has any secrets at all...and ask how old he was when he gave up his "V" and ask him who is was with and stuff like that get to know him...2.look for the good characoristics of a great husband.3 ask him if he likes children!
4.does he drink if so u have to fix that!
5 does he smoke(fix it agen)
6.will he stay by ur side forever!
7. will he nurse when ur sick
8..is he into his job and will be gone most of the days and weeks?
9.he has to be sweet! no just to u
and finally number 10
he can;t be afraid to show his feelings like out in public..he can't be afraid to put his arm around or kiss u all in public he has to prove that he will show the world that u guys are together and forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
luv ya hope these were helpful
~mandy~
2006-09-05 12:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by I_?_EMO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone that treats you with respect, honor, dignity. A person that you are able to have full honesty with, communicate, share a desire and passion for.. your best friend and someone you love deeply.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-05 12:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is that hi or she is honest. Cuz that is the fundamental thing for a relation
2006-09-05 12:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Yepe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you friends
can you talk freely about all subjects
do you both agree about children
if you both have a strong belief in God and are at different churches will it effect your beliefs in marriage
can they commit
do they want to settle down or play around
if you have different friends will it effect your time with each other
when you close your eyes can you describe yourself with the person
does the past effect the future
2006-09-05 12:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by aaricka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you see her (him), does she look like an angel ? With a glow about her ? If yes, TERRIBLE, WRONG, MATE.
If you become unprecedently brave, feel no fear, and.... become..... aroused, sexualy, SHE IS THE ONE; YOUR PAIR, YOUR MATE. Go get her; don't let her get away or you'll be sorriest man for rest of your life !
2006-09-05 12:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 inches
2006-09-05 12:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋