Not sure where to begin, but I've been late on my menstrual period. Well, my last period was from Aug 4th to Aug 8th. I was suppose to start my next period last Thursday, which was the 23rd day. Today is the 29th day. The important thing is that I have been really stressed out in mid August about something you don't need to know, but I was. I did some research about late period or missed period and most often that doesn't mean a women is necessary "pregnant." Whenever I mention it to my mother in-law she'll jump to conclusion that I am pregnant and what make me even more stressed out is that she has to share the news with my sister in-law who I dislike a lot and isn't related to my husband. She's just married to his younger brother and has a child and keep using a pregnancy test every other day thinking she's pregnant. She's just a drama queen and is artificial. Anyways, my husband and I aren't ready to have a child yet, but how I would I deal with my mother in-law?
2006-09-05 11:40:22 · 8 answers · asked by Bobcat9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One more thing, I feel like I'm being "rushed" to get pregnant and I know she wants me to get pregnant, but the timing of it isn't just right for neither my husband or I. Maybe I should stop telling her things. Like my own parents said to my brother and I, not too long ago that, "You and your brother don't tell us about your personal life stories that me or your father have nothing to "gossip" about." How would you go about this or deal with this issue?
2006-09-05 11:44:52 · update #1
Wow, that was my exact same situation!!! I had a long sit down talk with my mother-in-law. I explained to her the research I knew, how stressed I already was and kindly told her that her continually asking if I am pregnant was increasing the stress on me tremendously! I told her nicely that if and when my husband and I did decide to have children, that would be our personal business.
You are correct in saying that a late period does not necessarily mean you are pregnant, stress can play a huge role in changes that happen to a woman's menstrual cycle. I wish you luck with her and if talking nicely to her does not work, you may just have to be blunt!
2006-09-05 12:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big Tip: Stop needlessly feeding your M.I.L. pointless little "could-be's" and "maybe's." Don't mention anything until you've got something substantial to discuss. Polite smalltalk aside, of course.
If you speak about any issue KNOWING that your MIL will allow herself to get carried away, then you are guilty of continuing the family drama,--just like your sis-in-law, the chronic pregnancy test taker.
Selah.
2006-09-05 18:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by HyperBeauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've answered your own question sweetie,,,stop telling them anything as you suggested. the word you've used a few times is'personal' ..that says it all.really its none of their business and to rush you into something neither you or your hubby is ready for is selfish on their part.to have a baby because THEY want one would cause ill feelings on everyone's part.relax..don't say anything and if they ask,,,be honest and say you're not ready yet.
2006-09-05 19:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by ggmsixer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you brought up the subject, of course she is going to RUN with it!!! That's what mothers-in-law do best..
The best thing for you to do is "don't talk to her about your personal life, sex life, married life."
If you don't want her opinion, don't put the subject on the table... GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-05 21:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by chulita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deal with mine by avoiding her as much as I can. She lives 3 streets over, and I never go over there, and she doesn't come over here.
2006-09-05 18:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use need to know basis...in otherwords do not tell your mother in law casual things like that, so she does not tell the world until you are ready
2006-09-05 18:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
share as little of your personal life with them
my wife and I have been in this situation; we politely tell people that if they want kids, they can have them~we're happy as we are now
2006-09-05 19:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't mention the menstral cycle to her and why would you even have that conversation anyways
2006-09-05 18:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋