My bf and I haven't had sex in over a month now. Although I'm pretty stressed out because my family/home situation is a bit messy and I have tough exams coming up - any chance this isn't a sign of serious trouble in a relationship? To be clear, we haven't had sex because I don't feel like it.
2006-09-05 11:38:07 · 19 answers · asked by miaNov 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S.: I sometimes do things based on "right and wrong", by the way. Mostly, it overlapps.
2006-09-05 11:45:24 · update #1
Well because its you who doesn't want the sex, unless you feel that your reltaionship is bad then its in toruble, otherwise your ok. It is common for people to not want to have sex
2006-09-05 11:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be a number of factors affecting your sex drive with your bf. It does seem like you have a lot of stuff going on. Stress can play a role in a relationships sexual health. But the great thing about sex is that it can relieve stress too.
How would you guys rate your relationship on a scale of 1-10? Ten being excellent and 1 being horrible.
Does he take time to make you feel special? Do you feel attracted to him? I don't know how your relationship is doing, so I'm trying my best to help. But in most cases women will not feel like having sex because they feel unloved or unlovely. Most women tend to make sex a more emotional or mental type of ideal. Where as with men it is more a physical act that can bring closeness mentally.
It does seem to me that your relationship is undergoing stress. The question you need to ask yourselves is "Do we want to make this work despite the good times or the bad times?" If you both want to make it work then it will require both of you to work at it. Go back to when your relationship began. How did he sweep you off your feet? What did he do that just made you crazy about him? Was he very romantic or did he seem to spend a lot of time with you? What was it that you always did to show him how much you appreciated him? What activities did you both do together? Do you still do them together now? These are the type of questions you need to discuss with each other if you want to make it work.
If you feel that your relationship isn't worth saving then end it sooner than later. It just gets more difficult the longer it lasts. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-09-05 11:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by RelationGuru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a sign that you need to stop stressing over things you can't control.a romp in the bedroom would give you a little light relief from the stress of family and exams.
2006-09-05 11:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely in case you're over 18, then permit your coronary heart be your instruction manual. in case you're no longer a minimum of 18, then clarify to your lady chum which you're no longer allowed to be certain her....yet.....in case you like is a genuine love, she will comprehend and wait.....or a minimum of artwork around the mom and dad by some ability... if that's your 1st courting in this manner, then perhaps if she won't artwork with you in this, then it wasn't meant to be and additionally you shall quickly discover yet another greater dedicated better half. my purely caution to you relating to this form of courting... please be responsive to that in case you have had your coronary heart coronary heart broken by way of a guy, you already be responsive to ways plenty it hurts; yet once you get your coronary heart broken by way of a girl, because of the sensitivity, and absolute loving and giving nature of the courting, it is going to wreck even greater suitable than if it have been a guy.
2016-12-14 18:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by immich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself. You are stressed out. Get over your exams and try to fix your situation at home (if you can). I believe once the stress is lowered, you will get your libido back.
Good luck with your exams.
2006-09-05 11:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isnt what a relationship should be based on...and you just have no desire to do it. Theres nothing wrong with that, you are busy with things. Just..he might have needs taht need to be fulfilled.
2006-09-05 11:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by awall71688 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't start meeting his needs someone else will. Put the shoe on the other foot and see things from his point of view. Would you stay with you?
2006-09-05 11:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women dont get aroused like men, im happy with just a cuddle at times.
sounds like you and the b/f could do wit some alone time, just snuggling up together watching a film and see where you go from there.
2006-09-05 11:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a nice night in together, relax and enjoy each others company. you never know, once u hit the sack u may be in the mood ;-) if all else fails, just think....its a bit of exercise!!
2006-09-05 11:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you always ruled by your feelings or do you sometimes do things based on right and wrong?
2006-09-05 11:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by Niles Standish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋