I want to go to church but ? Part 2?

Question

I recieved such awseme advice that I decided that I should ask this one also.
In my first question I wanted to know the best way to choose and go to church to help Him be in my childrens' lives. Now answer this.
My husband was raised Catholic, very lax. He also had a bad experiance with a cult, through his brother. He doesn't want anything to do with church or going to church. How do I get him involved? Everytime I mention church he is snide.
If I go to church and take the children with me, and he doesn't follow - what kind of strain will that put on our relationship. My husband is wonderful.I've been with him for 11 years. I want him to grow with me, but he is reluctant, to say the least (at least in this decision). He is simular in his belief that God is with him and that he doesn't necessaraly need a church to believe. He's just down on church all together. How do I change that?
Also what is tything and is in required, or important?

Answer 1

You going to church with your children is fine your husband doesn't have to go in order for you to grow with him that's wrong cause my family does the same thing & I don't ask my husband to go with me at all I know it bothers him so I leave it alone on Holidays he comes with us & we appreciate that & we never ask him he just comes be patient he might go on those special days
Good Luck

Answer 2

Us men sometimes are stubborn, you have to entice him to a potluck dinner, church picnic, super bowl party, softball game or something so he can see just how good real Christians can be! Then he will be more open to doing church in the future.

You cant change his view on church directly. All you can do is set the table for him, he has to come eat. Once he sees the whole family is going but him, and he sees the changes in you, it will make him feel isolated and missing out on something good and maybe will light a fire under him. If he sees how much good it is for you and sees how much your kids love it, he may want it too. Keep passively inviting him and he will come if he is a good man and truly loves you if not for his sake than yours.

Tithing is in fact required (Malachi 3:8) because you are giving God back a portion of what he has blessed you with so that his ministries can be carried out. Good luck trying to sell your husband on that one! Good luck!

RE brenda: the Bible may contain violence and hatred but it is condemned. You would know this if you actually ever read it. And they have childrens Bibles that censor the explicit stuff. What world are you living in? Dont criticize that which you dont understand.

Answer 3

Try a catholic church. We did alot of shopping around and couldn't find one for all needs so we go to a pentacostal and a catholic church, gathers some very strange comments when people want to know LOL> I also attend a bible colllege and then want to go to Notre Dame for graduate school. So yes, it's different but the best of both worlds.
Try going and finding "activities" like carry in dinners and picnics and stuff he may be more open to a function like that than going to a service. I can tell you being Catholic I really don't like going to pentacostal churches that yell at you for not contributing to their collection plates, that IS WRONG> and he may be bitter from something like that.
You can also have church in you own home at the dinner table, read some of the bible, pray and discuss together.

Answer 4

The easy part - tithing - from a jewish word meaning tenth.

The concept is that you give 10% of everything you get to God (or the church) though it is God's to begin with.

It is very important - he who is trusted with a lot, will recieve a lot more, little for little, nothing for nothing. It is all an act of faith trusting God to do more with the 90% of your earnings, than with 100% and no God.

At this point tithing conversation could go on for days.

as to get your husband to church - The bible tells you to get him there. yes it will stratch the family a lot, don't put the pressure on to make matters worse in your home, only better. Otherwise the kids will be turned off to church also.

this is 1 cor 7 :12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy

This is not to say you are headed for divorce, but you are making him holy by your witness. Keep working on him, keep praying, get your friends praying, try fasting.
Also try a small bible study, so he meets christian friends to grow with if he is turned off by church.

I am praying for you right now

Answer 5

Going to church makes you a Christian the same way standing in a garage makes you a car.

He's got better things to do on Sundays than hang out with a bunch of self- righteous fuddy duddies. Really, if he's a good person and comfortable with his social situation and not worried about it, let him spend his sundays productively or doing what he thinks is best for him.

Face it, you're going to church for cummunity and the social aspects of it. You can talk to God by yourself. Consider it his 'alone time'. Every relationship needs space.

Answer 6

tything is giving 1/3 of your earnings to the church- depends on the church. Let your husband come back in his own time at his own rate. Set a good example for him by the way you live out the Gospel message- Love.

Answer 7

Faith is a personal matter. You cannot force your husband to believe, or participate in a church. That doesn't mean that you cannot go yourself, or that you cannot introduce your children to religious ideas and the fellowship of believers.

I've already suggested Unitarian Universalism. Here's another reason why it might be ideal for your situation: atheists, Humanists, and other nontheists are welcome in UU congregations, too. UUs do not tell you what to believe; they leave that to the individual. Your husband doesn't have to conform to somebody else's creed. He can be honest to his conscience and still "go to church" with you and the kids.

Answer 8

We are the church (meaning our bodies) not a building. The only time we go to a church building is to fellowship.As far as him going to church,If he chooses not to then its his choice. As long as he reads the word of God and has an understanding of what it says then he'll be fine. But I would ask you to pray for him though. If he came out of a cult,it would be hard for him to go back to a church building. I say pray for him.

Answer 9

your husband is right , you should listen to him , you can celebrate the faith of your choice at home or in a group of friends , many organised cults or churches have been corrupted, or have those individuals within them, you must be carefull , talk to your husband , ask him what he thinks , two heads are better than one , tything is paying cash into a church , i wouldnt touch it or any of the hard sell religions. good luck

Answer 10

You and the children going to church may put a strain on your relationship. He may ridicule you for it, but just let it slide off of your back.

Don't try to pursuade your husband to go to church. Just pray for him that he will get closer to God. If he is not totally angry at God, you may want to do a little Bible study with him at home. My wife and I read the daily Mass readings and the meditation at http://www.wau.org/meditations/meditations.asp?

Get involved in volunteer work at your church. You will change your husband's view of church by him seeing how church gives you peace, joy and love. He will want that for his life and begin to go with you.

Give it time.

Contact me if you want to talk about it.