Should I "look" for a good man or give up looking for one?

Question

Well there seem to be schools of thought on it.
1) "You won't find a man if you're not looking" and

2) "You won't find a man if you're constantly looking for him" (a watched pot never boils)
I Have no problem meeting men- just a problem meeting the Good ones. the ones I meet only want sex, or are too immature. I have "given up" for now, but this can be really lonesome and boring... Any suggestions on where the good ones are?

Answer 1

I was married for 13 1/2 years. Within 7 months I was in another long-term relationship. It lasted 3 1/2 years. When that relationship went south I swore off men. Figured they were all as$holes and not worth my time.

Funny how life works. Within ONE week of ending my second relationship, I met my husband on the internet. I was offstandish at first and we talked for 1 year before actually meeting. Even then, I was still leery. Slowly he broke down my defenses. We have now been married 3 years and this man is my everything. He is perfect for me and vice versa. We were lucky enough to find our soul mates.

It will happen when it's supposed to happen. It's not something you can plan or rush.

Good luck.

Answer 2

2) constantly look, I think. After all, a watched pot DOES BOIL !!!!, it just seems to take a bit longer. The honest ones "only want sex". Why not "have some" if he is kind gentle and disease free? Then see what else you have there. Would you even care if some prude thought you were slutty or some foolishness for try ing to get your needs met? Then get someone who has the other qualities that you want also.

Answer 3

Believe me, I've had my share of bad ones, especially the ones who just want to get into your pants and call it a day. Just when I thought there was no one special out there for me, plus I had a terrible breakup with my ex-boyfriend of five years, I found someone who helped me through the pain and heartache, and all the disappointments I had after dating all those losers. Funny enough, the guy I'm talking to now, we grew up together (stayed next door to each other) and were friends since kids, but recently got closer to each other. People always say "wait for the good ones to come to you" and even though it usually goes in one ear and out the other, sometimes that saying is really true. It all depends on how you feel and what YOU want to do. If you feel like you want to go out there and find that Mr. Right, you go ahead and look for him. Only you know the type of man you want and want to spend your time with. Sometimes the best ones are the ones who are right under your nose. I wish you nothing but the best, and don't give up on your happiness!!!

Answer 4

Stop looking as hard and wait for a while. I have been waiting for about a year. I am in no hurry with a two year old to meet anyone. I guess is that we will luck up on each other eventually.

Answer 5

You can't "look" for a person. As hard as it is, you just need to let it happen. You can help out your cause by going out to social places, whatever kind you like. Art fairs, bars, etc. For now, have fun, live life. You will know when the right guy comes along.

Answer 6

well stop looking 4 one let him find u even if it takes a while for someone to come along love will come someday.

Answer 7

never give up is what i say. yea it may hurt when u get dumped but thatas part of it. u have to deal with it and keep looking<33

Answer 8

Buy a dog and a vibrator. Now both problems are solved.

Answer 9

i prayed for 3 months for a man that was right for me. god sent him and we have been together for 18 years.

Answer 10

just have sex with as many men as you can. you will earn respect!!