Ok, you met someone online and fell in love with them. You go their state to finally meet them, and they turn out to be much different (physically) then you were led to believe. You have purchased the airline tickets already and will staying there for one week, but after the first day are feeling uncomfortable about the whole thing. The other person is really in love with you and you don't want to break their heart. What do you do?
2006-09-05 10:50:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Didn't they think you were going to find out what they looked like. You need to talk to them about why they lied to you. Although- looks shouldn't matter- if you have really fallen in love with this person.
2006-09-05 10:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly why you can't (really) fall in love online - UNTIL you meet the person..that will seal the deal (or not). As much as we like to think that looks don't matter - they do...at least to some degree, and for most of us?...to a bigger degree than we might like to think. We are human. First of all, he deceived you - not nice. Second of all - he should have shared the cost of those airline tickets. (I hope you are not staying WITH him...it's always best to have your own hotel room)...anyway....depending on your situation right now, I'd tell him, "look this is just NOT working out for me emotionally the way I would have liked to"....and leave. You don't owe him much at all ...his heart won't be broken for long - believe me. Get outta there sister! (and be safe)
2006-09-05 17:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is, why would put yourself at risk? A lot of people are now getting into this on line dating but, as the old saying goes, you get what you paid for. So now you have been talking to someone who isn't the nice looking person you thought they would be and now you just want to up and leave. Did you consider the consequence before going on line? Its kind of scary out there and you can meet any ole body. I would suggest that you enjoy the week and discover a new state. No need in wasting money you've already spent. Enjoy yourself and strictly tell your new found friend that you want to remain friends. Don't go out with him to any secluded places, go out to very public areas and places. Let this person know that you enjoyed visiting and that you just want to remain friends. God Bless.
2006-09-05 18:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by Wifey K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah so they lied, but don't break their heart. Maybe he/or she lied to you because the person was afraid you would react the way you did, and would not have given that person a second thought. BUt instead the person told you what they thought you wanted to hear, so that they could have a chance. You fell in love with their personality and looks you thought they had. I say stay with the person, don't judge the book by its cover. This might be the person you have been looking for all your life
2006-09-05 17:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by TRU ME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must of thought that if you fell in love with his personality then youd fall in love with how he looks. but i guess its not that way.
you need to have a talk with him. tell him that in person you two just dont have that connection. tell him you are not interested in him as much anymore. people change so he should be okay with that.
if he says that its okay, after some time you will like him. no. if you dont feel anything for him now you will never feel anything.
here is an idea. when you tell him this. take him out in public. DO NOT TELL HIM AT HOME. just in case he becomes angry and trys to attack you. he wont be able to do that in public. so take him to a busy park or the mall. and tell him that you two just dont have that connection anymore.
then, tell him that you will find your way home from there. call a cab and ask them to take you to the airport. go to the customer service desk of the airline company and tell them you need to leave ASAP. you might have to pay an extra $100, but who cares.
its better to pay an extra $100 and get home SAFE then to stay at his place and end up getting hurt by him.
just GO HOME. even if he doesnt understand you and wont let you go, just go. tell him this in public. remember!
just leave him. who cares if you will break his heart. he will find another girl online and lie to her as he did to you.
but you shouldnt meet guys online anymore. they are all liers.
2006-09-05 18:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop believing in [Sleepless in Seattle]. Stop looking on the Internet for love, and spend time in the Real World in your own back yard. It is a lot safer, and you get to really see what you want.
2006-09-05 17:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Sentinel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did u only fall in love with the person because of his looks then? thats mest up in the first place..yes looks are a definate positive and i look for them too but personality matters the most..if u can get along with him maybe just friends will have to do...maybe u can get over the "looks" part eventually...
2006-09-05 18:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say leave. If need be, leave under the cover of darkness. Or just tell them you're not feeling a connection. Good luck.
2006-09-05 17:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by fullmooncrazies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Tell him u don't feel the same way as u did when u met over the net...tell him your feeling uncomfortable
2006-09-05 17:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Dragon Guardian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to them about it. They lied and there really is no excuse for getting you there under false pretenses. Let them try and explain why they lied, and see if their explanation is acceptable to you. If it isn't, leave.
2006-09-05 18:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋