why are you against polygamy?

Question

-the number of women are increasing, while the number of men are declining.
-men are afraid of marriage, and most men are not financially ready for marriage.
-many women turn to prostitution, secret lovers, girl friends or taking advantage of by men.

this Question is not necessary agreed by me, but it's reasnable to balance our society. why would women reject living in a big family? if a man is fair and financially supporter, why not?

take a look at this pic.
http://image.guardian.co.uk/sys-images/Guardian/Pix/gallery/2001/05/16/polygamy.jpg

Answer 1

Historically, polygamy was banned in England for sexist reasons, favoring the man. Too many of the richest dukes/earls/etc. were getting too many of the women, leaving a dearth of women for regular-men. As England became more democratic and regular-men got more political sway compared to royalty, they pushed through the ban, thereby getting better access to the gene pool. But, presumably prior to this ban women could have chosen to be with these regular-guys, but many instead chose to be one of multiple wives in the grand house of a rich duke.

Morally, my gut tells me I don't like it. But as a libertarian I believe people can do what they wish (so long as they respect the rights of others), so it ought to be legal.

Answer 2

1. The entire population in increasing. Where did that statistic come from?
2. Many women are afraid of marriage too. And many men are "financially ready" and if not, then don't get married.
3. Women do not turn to prostitution, "secret lovers" etc. because they should be in a polygamist family. It comes from a lack of respect for ones' self. Polygamy only promotes the dehumanization and degradation of women.

I would never ever want to be just another wife no matter how big the family or who the man. I would not want to deal with the day-to-day drama of dealing with other menstruating, hormonal, competitive women in my household. Polygamy would in no way balance society.
I am an independent woman. I do not want, nor need, an man to take care of me.

Answer 3

I'm not opposed to polygamy. It's a very sensible solution when there is a shortage of men. Rather than being consigned to a life of lonely spinsterhood, supernumerary women could share a husband and have an opportunity to bear legitimate children. The women could share childcare and other household tasks as well as freeing up some of the women to work outside the home to add to the family income. This is an especially worthwhile arrangement in societies where single women do not have opportunities to earn a living for themselves and will either starve or turn to crime or prostitution without the support of a family.

People tend to think of polygamy as something that benefits the lucky husband allowing him to have all the sex he wants with a variety of women. That's ridiculous of course. Men long ago figured out that you don't have to marry women to have sex with them. An occasional visit to a brothel would be much more convenient and less expensive if that were the real issue.

Answer 4

In countries that allow polygamy, men usually abuse the system, taking multiple wives (oftentimes ones in the early teens) and treating them like slaves. In these societies, practically no woman takes many husbands, so the system tips in strong favor to the men.

The ratio between men and women is still pretty much 1:1, there is only a tiny discrepancy that really should not affect the balance of the two sexes.

Answer 5

I would say the "if" part of your statement needs to be met. Most of the time, you end up with women being bought and traded like animals in harems, with no rights and no possible way to advance. In a divorce, all the money goes with the husband, because he still has a dozen other wives to support, so women have to stay in abusive or unresponsive relationships with fiarly well to do men or starve on the streets. If it could be done in such a way that women's rights were protected, though, I think I'd be for it.

Answer 6

I think the biggest reason is neither men nor women want to share. I'm a man and I know I wouldnt want to be in a relationship where the woman had other boyfriends or husbands. I am sure women feel the same way. I dont see how it would work without some, if not all, of the wives feeling very hurt.

Answer 7

Why do you have to generalize? I am not against it. I am just worried I cannot afford it. So, I do not have anything against those who can. My other problem is will my first wife like it? How about my promise that she is the only one I will ever love till divorce...errr..I mean death do us part. Do I just ignore those promises because of my libido?
Now as you were saying about prostitutes, secret lovers, girl friends or taken advantage of by men... well for those who can afford little pleasures, let them just have a cut of meat than taking the whole cow home and give those you mentioned also a time that someday they may be able to find their own to keep. Numbers do not make the world necessarily equal.

Answer 8

I think people should be able to have as many partners as they desire (women and men) or husbands/wives if all are agreeable to being a part of the situation...

It should have to do with desire to be a part of that lifestyle though, and a desire to be with the other people involved...not because there are more women than men, some men don't want to commit, or any of the other reasons you mentioned (and certainly not just men having multiple women...it should go both ways)...

It should simply be legal because consenting adults should be able to live as they choose, if they are not harming others...there's no legitimate reason for it not to be legal...

So I guess your question wasn't directed toward me then was it..since I am not against the idea (even though I would not choose to live that way)...

Answer 9

As a principle, polygamy is non of the government's -or our- business. But in practicality, a man -in general- can not support multiple wives with even more kids. All polygamist and up on welfare. Now it is our business. An other reason is, it are always older man that "marry" very young girls, smells like pedophilia to me. An other creepy thing from the bible.

Answer 10

Ugh. Your question shows poor reasoning, huge assumptions, and bad facts. Instead of couching your political or spiritual beliefs in a poorly worded question, why not just make a statement and be done with it?

Primarily, I'm against young (as young as 13 years old) young ladies being forcibly "married" to men (many times much older men, but that isn't the point). I'm against rape. I'm in favor of protecting youth until they reach the age of majority. I'm in favor of the rule of law.

Incidentally, it's well known that in Fundamentalist LDS communities (very much NOT related to current Later Day Saint doctrines and beliefs), young men are routinely kicked out of communites so that they do not provide "competition" to the older men of the community. The families are commonly NOT self-supporting, as many many MANY of them are recieving state and federal funds (because, technically, according the the government, they are unmarried, unemployed women with many children), as well free healthcare.

Research your facts before you make a statement. Or ask a question that isn't QUITE so disingenuous.