He's 37, I'll be 25 soon. We both like each other a lot, sparks every time we see each other. To cut a long story short, I'm afraid of being sucked into the whole thing and dumped - there it is. I have doubts about there ever being anything serious between us - or any other guy that older, for that matter - all because of the age difference. For example, I can't possibly picture myself with someone that younger.
Man, I hate it: I practically never click with people!!!
2006-09-05 10:27:12 · 20 answers · asked by miaNov 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have a healthy fear of rejection. You seem to know what you are doing. You obviously don't feel the 'click' that you love and have a future with this guy.
He's the one that should be worried.
Good luck.
2006-09-05 10:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by patweb01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the first young woman to find herself in this situation, but you sound like you may be one of the wisest! It is good to question this. What makes you feel this way? The information that raised the question is available to you. If you look hard enough at your situation, you'll see it!
Older men are attractive because they have more experience. They have more money and seem to spend it more freely. They have made more mistakes too. They also know how to manipulate better. What is his life situation like that makes you think he'll use you then lose you? Pay attention. Your radar is definitely on, so use it!
Something else to consider is the math game: When I'm 37, he'll be 49. When I'm 49, he'll be 61... This might not bother you, but try to see it incrementally like this. Love can transcend numbers, but think also of the differences in health and vitality you will experience.
When I was in my early twenties an older man wisked me off to NYC for a week. We went sightseeing. Ate at Sardie's after going to a Broadway play (Chorus Line), visited the Bronx zoo. He wined, dined me every day for a week and then proposed to me at the top of the Empire State Building. I'll never forget it.
He was 23 years my senior!
Today, I am so very grateful that our engagement didn't hold up! I am at the prime of my life! I look and feel great. I'm glad I'm not attached to a senior citizen!
Sounds selfish? Not really. I was young and in love with love. I may have married him and felt a great devotion to him, then again, maybe not. I'm just glad now that I didn't.
Moral of story?
You are young. Date and have a good time. Keep your head on straight and your eyes open. With the good head you seem to have on your shoulders, you'll do fine.
2006-09-05 10:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a better chance of being sucked in and dumped with a guy closer to your age then one that's 37. By this time, they usually have sewed their wild oats and are ready for a meaningful commitment. Are you willing to be with a man that's 50 when your 38? If that doesn't concern you, then I don't see what the issue is on the age difference.
2006-09-05 10:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should not be an issue I know a lot of people that there is a greater differance in age. If you love one another go for it and don't listen to others. My parents were like you describe mom was 31 when she married dad at 55
2006-09-05 10:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by yankeecowboy10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your age difference isnt that great a deal, if you really enjoy being with each other and can find many things in common you wiil keep him young and he will be able to share life experiences with you. I'd say go for it. but this other guy who answered that hes 49 and has been with his 19 year old girlfriend for 7 years do the math whats up with that? that means she was 12 and he was 42????????
2006-09-05 10:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Timothy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no differnce between a 25 year old and a 37 year old. Age is all in your mind. It takes longer for men to mature so he is probably only 25 in his mind anyway. Shy bens get no sweets.
2006-09-05 10:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 25 year old could suck you into a relationship and dump you also. If you are looking for a serious relationship you need to clarify that. However, if a man that age repels you, don't bother with him.
2006-09-05 10:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and find out. If he answers you honestly you will know and will learn about the way he thinks. If it doesn't matter to him, then go for it, but just go cautiously as you always should, but don't dismiss it just because of the age difference.
2006-09-05 10:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by CB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. communication and trust are the 2 most important things a relationship is based on. i am 49 and my wife is 19. we have a great relationship and have been together for 7 years. good luck and take care.
2006-09-05 10:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age dosen't make any differents. i'm 15 years older then my wife. we being married for 8 years now. it's what you feel in your heart.
you said that sparks fly when ya see each other. theres your sign.
good luck.
2006-09-05 10:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by rickinobetz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋