How did you do it?
Did it take a long time?
2006-09-05 10:25:13 · 26 answers · asked by miraclewhip 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not looking forward to choosing Best Answer for this one, because it will be difficult. Everyone was so honest, and some of you went back to some painful places in order to answer in a way that would help others trying to forgive.
I'd give you all ten points if I could.
2006-09-05 17:11:47 · update #1
Yes my friend I have... many people... the first being 'Myself'!!
It took a long time... and I mean a long time... but I finally did it with God's help!!
My life story and some of the characters in it: would make a Stephan King novel, sound like a Disney movie... people who committed horrors, & deeds you would not wish to know!!
When I came to know Christ... I KNEW... I would have to 'FORGIVE' these People... and I fought this tooth and nail: until God showed me my life, and said… “Look At What I Have Forgiven YOU”!! It goes a little deeper than this… but sorry… this is not the forum/media to discuss it… But bottom line was… I had to forgive those who had transgressed against me… or God would not forgive me my transgressions… of which there were many!!
As said it took time… but now I have come to forgive… I feel a real sense of freedom/release… as though a great burden has been lifted off my back… and have come to see myself: & others… in a totally different light!!
God bless & Keep You!! xoxox
2006-09-05 10:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by englands.glory 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I forgave my ex-fiance' for breaking up with me over the phone (he was in the Natl. Guard in NC, I'm in TX) while I was at work with a screaming (pregnant) mistress in the background (on his end). It took me a long time and a lot of soul searching. I didn't eat for about 2 weeks, I cried myself to sleep most every night during that time and didn't date for about a year. It probably wouldn't have been so bad except that we had grown up together since we were about 8 years old. So not only did he break off an engagement but a long friendship as well.
2006-09-05 17:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only learned to forgive people when I realized that everyone has irrational moments in their life, some are just bigger than others. So after 4 long years I forgave my sister for stabbing me in the leg with a pair of scissors.
2006-09-05 17:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by 5147 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was brooding about something for a long time.
Then I asked what that felow really had done to me, and what reasons he might have had, and also how i would have dealt with me if I were in his shoes..
. And then meeting the guy in a neutral set up I saw him more like a person who could be right and who could also make a mistake. That's how it was easier to forgive.
2006-09-05 17:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by nischal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually learned this on Oprah (one of the few times I've watched her) she did a show on forgiveness and that it's a choice we make either to hold on or to let go. That the only person we hurt by holding on is ourselves. yes I yave forgiven the ones that have hurt me. It took God and time. I choose to be a survivor not a victim in any circumstance.
2006-09-05 18:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by sshhorty2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was very difficult to forgive someone who had done something so wrong in my eyes (and she knew it was wrong too). But we must remember that Jesus forgives those who forgive others. Grudges must not be held against one another because Jesus did not hold a grudge, He hung on a cross to save me and forgive me, And I wasn't even born when he did that. He suffered the ultimate to give me life and I will forgive anyone who does wrong against me or others because Jesus forgives me. It took me a while to forgive but that is how we grow and learn God's plan and word for our lives, is through struggle.
2006-09-05 17:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember that as a Christian, in order to be able to have Jesus forgive you for all you do that is wrong in His eyes, you first must be able to forgive others who sin against you. If you can't do that, then you are not worthy to turn to the Lord and ask Him for his forgivness until you can forgive someone who has sinned against you.
Pray to the Lord, and ask Him to show you the way to forgivenss and He will.
2006-09-05 17:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 0 problems forgiving people that admit theyre wrong and are sorry. I have the inate inability to forgive pigheaded people that are incapable of admitting theyre wrong. If you can figure out how to pull that off let me know.
Typically it is good to forgive people in your heart because then you dont have the burden weighing on your heart all that time.
2006-09-05 17:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my mother. I just kept praying and praying and realize that I can't change her nor her ways, and I was able to forgive her. It did take a long time, in my opinion, but it's not impossible. You aren't helping yourself or anyone else by harboring resentment. You're just hurting yourself. It isn't healthy either, physically or spiritually.
2006-09-05 17:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did. I did Forgive someone who destroyd my life starting from ruing my friendship with my best friend, my relationship with my brothers and everything...I just forgave hm. He was really hard to forgive but I did. I usually forgive people cuz I am not capable to hate, I hate to Hate. And our God Jesus taught us to forgive all our debtors. I hope you can do it too, you will feel better, relieved...Try it. Good Luck!
2006-09-05 17:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋