I am 17 weeks pregnant and when the baby arrives I want to stay at home with my child until he/she is ready for school. The only thing that makes the decision hard for me is I am a property manager at a storage facility, I live on site and the owner pays all of my rent and utilities ( electric and water), if I decide to be a stay at home mom then we will have to move out of the apartment on site and move else where. Which isnt a bad thing either because I really dont want my child to grow up in the state/county we are currently living in, I would like to go back to where my husband is from and grew up at, but I dont think I would be able to get a good job there, and I dont think he would be able to either. Plus, we would then have to pay rent and our utilities. So damn confused. Please help, what would you do?
2006-09-05 09:36:23 · 10 answers · asked by Terri H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First of...you really don't want to raise your child in a storage facility do you?
Can you afford to stay where you are and live off your husband's salary?
What's your reasoning for wanting to leave work. A lot of people sacrifice and leave work only to be miserable at home with the kids for their childhood. Maybe you should consider keeping your job or going part-time. Daycare can be good for kids. Helps them be socialized and exposes them to germs, which builds up their anti-bodies.
2006-09-05 09:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with your husband first. If you want to move, move now. It will be a bit harder after the baby comes. Anyone can find a job anywhere. You just may have to settle for less at first, but eventually, you will make more money. Do what you feel is right for your family. Yes, free rent and utilities is great, but if it's not where you want to raise your child, you won't be happy. And if mom isn't happy, nobody's happy.
2006-09-05 10:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by happymommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should weigh your options b/c if your hubby can not find a good job (if you move), then you would have no choice but to work any way. Before making a decisions, you should check on homes, the amount of rent and utilities, etc. to see if you would be able to afford it on just his earnings. Also, check with your employer about coming back to work on a part-time basis or changing your hours to give you more days off a week. Good luck on your decision.
2006-09-05 09:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is obviously lots greater right here than only notwithstanding if your spouse works or not. Your mindset does look very conceited-what approximately what's maximum suitable on your babies ? money isn't the only difficulty, there are maximum of alternative subject concerns-your spouse's happiness ? i won't be in a position to work out why you chosen to have babies interior the 1st place in case you only desire to deliver them off to a babysitter. Why does your spouse desire your permission to not artwork ? there is a few thing very incorrect approximately your finished outlook on marriage, babies and life customarily. i might recommend which you lay off your destructive pregnant and probable very drained spouse and seek for some autonomous counselling to handle why you're behaving like this using fact it is not a wholesome thank you to act. Sorry if this seems harsh however the certainty can each and every each and every now and then be difficult to stand. playstation stay at abode or working mothers contributions to society are irrelevant-what's substantial is that youngsters are raised via satisfied mum and dad working or not.
2016-10-01 08:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first I'd go online and start looking for jobs in the area you want to move to. Since you want to stay at home you would only need to find a job for your hubby at that time. Have him Apply for the jobs he's interested in. if he gets a good offer you could then Move your child to that area. At this point it's all about what you think is best for the baby. Mother's that stay home with their children are able to bond more with their children (thats my personal belief anyway) thats not to say that a working mother doesnt bond with her children! I think you're probably way stressed over this situation, just relax and take it one day at a time. I'm sure you'll find a way to juggle all these issues! Good luck with your baby and congrats.
2006-09-05 09:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by sweetbabygirlof1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk it out with your husband. If you want to stay home, it's important your husband gets a good stable job. Actually, unless your area is really bad, property manage sounds great to work at home from, so you get rent paid for, and you get to stay with the baby all the time.
2006-09-05 09:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a good set up where you are living now, but if you aren't happy with it then now is the time to change. If you want to move back to where your hubby is from then do it. Talk to his family there and ask if they would be willing to help you guys out while you find work/place to live. If they are willing then go for it.
There is nothing wrong with you wanting to raise your child and live somewhere that you will be happy.
2006-09-05 09:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk with my partner. Have your priorties in line so that a way a mutual decision won't be too hard to come up with. What is going to benefit you better in most areas....
2006-09-05 09:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about whats best for your baby, my mom stayed home with us and it was so great, she stayed home with us because when she was growing up she always came home to an empty house and she never wanted her children to have to do that
2006-09-05 09:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by AFwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u live on site then u can take ur baby to the office w/ you!
2006-09-05 10:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋