I have a fraternal twin sister. We are 22. I have shared a room with her for 22 years (more if you count the womb). As twins, we share an inseparable bond. She graduates from collge this year and in January is going away for her intership. (Little info, College in Canada is usually 2-3 years, University is 4). I still have 2 more years of University to do.
My question is, I don't want her to leave but I can't stop her. It's gonna be hard not having her around, how can I cope with the hole that will inevitabley be in my life?
2006-09-05 09:24:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-09-05 09:34:50 · update #1
call her on the Phone keep in touch by Email,and you will see eachother on holidays..and I am sure she will do the same to you..It will be hard not seeing her at first I know,it is that way even if you aint a twin,when me and my brothers and sisters moved on I missed them but still see them as often as we can.
and even if she isn't there Physically..she is always there at all times with each other as you are with her at all times since you are twins you two share a very very strong BOND.
2006-09-05 09:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by steve 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, it's the same kind of feeling that a mom goes through when her children go off to beginning their life as an adult. The best thing you can do is to stay busy, and stay connected to your sister as often as possible. While you are twins, that doesn't mean you'll both follow the same path, and that's as it should be. You are both individuals, with separate needs & goals. FIll your life with friends and meaningful activities. Volunteer with some organization that's close to your sister's heart. It might make you feel closer to her as you put a little bit of yourself into the effort. Try not to call each other every day. School is hard, and distractions can take away valuable time with the books. Send a short e-mail once a day or a few times a week. If you must, call once a week, preferably on the weekend. When you're busy, it's hard to feel the void that she used to fill in your life. I'm not suggesting forgetting about her (who could do that?). I'm talking about helping you cope with that empty spot that her closeness used to fill. I hope that many siblings will read this and draw closer to their siblings. After all, when you get to be an adult, you'll depend a lot on each other for emotional and moral support, among other things. You'll go on after parents and grandparents are gone. Thank you for showing that siblings CAN love each other after all. <*)))><
2006-09-05 09:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a twin, but I am extremely close to my sister. The first time I went a whole day without her, I could hardly bear it.
But I think at your age, it had to come. You can't have her living with you when you're both married with kids. It's the time to separate. And even though you would want to be with her as long as possible, it's been a long time already.
Call her often (not obsessively), maybe four or so times a week. I'm sure you have other friends, so talk to them. Don't seek to replace her, because you never will (she's your sister, it'd be impossible :-) ). Just try to go on with life as it was before. Talk to her, call, email, IM, letters whatever form of communication you like. let your friends comfort you in this difficult time.
2006-09-05 11:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by millancad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, you think it's going to be hard, but it's going to be easier than you think, you will adjust and be used to it before you know it. Just take it with a grain of salt, do other activities, many. She has to go on her own, eventually, she'll get married and have a family, so why not start getting detached, emotionally, she has to live her life and so do you, just think that, being dependent on someone is never a good thing. You'll be just fine, Take care
2006-09-05 09:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by You are loved 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just will. People learn to cope with these things, it just takes time.
Remember, she'll still be alive, and still be there for you to talk to. You two can write each other letters, call each other, email, IM, there are tons of ways to still talk to her to lessen how much you miss each other.
You'll do fine. Let her know how you're feeling about her moving, and she will probably try her hardest to help you out.
It's good you two have such a great relationship, and because of it, I think you will be able to cope fine.
Good luck :)
2006-09-05 09:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by laura.ispurple 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it's 4 the BEST this will give you time to RELY on yourself and grow as a separate individual person. It may be painful you will miss her I can't think of anything better she could do that let you live your life and she live hers.
2006-09-05 09:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if you like you can talk to her in fact i have a fartenal twin brother ,but if you talk to her often then you will feel like if shes there you can doit by e male ,male, phone and in th efuter video phone well good luck with it
2006-09-05 10:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget, when you think you were alone God was walking with you. God made you and your sister and was with you since you were born.
When you need someone to fill in the void, let God into your heart and he'll give your sister strength and protection supplemented with love that she needs in her life.
2006-09-05 09:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by grouchy bato 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find another hole!
2006-09-05 09:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
YOU SHOULD FIND A NERDLY STUD TO BE YOUR BOYFRIEND.
2006-09-05 09:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Nerdly Stud 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋