Yes, im a fast guy. I meet them and then i think about them so much, then i move in. To me, i dont want something so good get away from me. Im a grabber. If its great i take the chance. But with girls i know they need time. How do i slow down? Like this one. Shes beautiful! Her eyes are soooo beautiful and with her smile, You cant get anybetter then that. But she wants to go slow i understand that. But im afraid she wont be there, or shell find someone else, or well stop talkin.. Can anyone help me with these problems?!
2006-09-05 09:14:51 · 10 answers · asked by eighty dee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do things to stop thinking about her. Go out with buddies etc.
The thing is, you attract by retreating. What I mean is that if you made the first move and got her interested, then back off some and let her come to you. Works like a charm. I don't mean ignore her or anything, but let her call you. Let her make your plans. Tell her every once in a while that you aren't going out with her that night, but are going out with the guys. Also, when you are with her, control yourself. Do not be overly sappy or lovey dovey. Sure, once girls are in a commited relationship that is fine, but during the beginning it usually comes off as too soft.
Sounds like you know these things about yourself and are concious of them. Now make that effort to work on it.
2006-09-05 09:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze buddy, slow down. If you dont, then you have more of a chance of losing her. You might scare her off. Wouldn't you want to know that this is a good lasting relationship before you get up an move in. If she cares about you she will be there whether you are in the same house or not. Dont over do it. Give her her space. If she likes you then she wont go out and find another man, stop talking to you or any of that. And by the way, even if you do live together what makes you think a woman cant still do those things with you there? Get me, if she is yours she is yours.
2006-09-05 16:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you think that by moving fast you will keep her is not the right move.
you have a low-self esteem if you think she won't be there, think highly of yourself and if you really like this girl then take it slow and get to know each other and try not to jump into it to fast so she won't get all freak out and run.
Booty calls are meant to be fast but if you really like her and are interested this might be the chance you have been waiting for to be in a real meaningful relationship. I'm not talking about marriage but a good healthy relationship.
I'm pretty sure you are a nice guy you just need to slow down and stop and wonder what you really want.
2006-09-05 16:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question! The first thing you need to do (and maybe the only thing, who knows?) is not to expect too much intimacy or physical expression. For example, I know for a fact that many guys want that physical component of a relationship, for example, like sex or making out. I think since she asked you to take it slow, you've got to get rid of the thought in the back of your head that wants to be physically closer to her. In your description of her you never once mentioned her great personality or how she makes you feel. You only mentioned her "beautiful eyes" or "smile", things that are more aesthetic-based rather than anything that strikes deeper. She may be looking for a more internal connection. So it would only work if you both saw eye-to-eye. See how things go from here. If it won't work, it won't work.
2006-09-05 16:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be unattached to the outcome it sure seems all you are really interested in is the hunt, life is long so just enjoy the ride wisdom comes when you finally figure out that the one you want is not actually the best one for you
2006-09-05 16:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down with girls?
Use the brakes.
2006-09-05 16:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u gotta sort your approach out, like slow down or something
2006-09-05 16:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok...if she says she wants you to slow down then it probably means she doesnt want you to leave her and she wants to get to know you and she's not gonna leave for a while....
2006-09-05 16:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
easy. help me know some of them
2006-09-05 16:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by europe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's real easy.
2006-09-05 16:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋