How to deal with rejection?

Question

So I thought this girl, who I only know from brief encounters in class, was interested in me. We chatted over email - and see seemed to be flirtatous - and we set up a time to go out. The day of our "date" she abruptly cancelled 30 minutes before, using an obvious excuse. Now I'm feeling pretty down on myself... I went from feeling on top of the world, to feeling undesirable. Any tips on dealing with rejection?

Answer 1

I have done that to some one before. It was a horrible thing to do but I felt so anxious and stressed about the whole formal date thing that I freaked out and canceled.

If you two have gotten along well up until that point that is probably what happened. A lot of women prefer a casual, "oops we are eating together" date, rather than an assigned time date.

To get over that feeling of rejection I would confront her and as the previous writer said "let it burn". Ask her what happened and tell her you thought you two hit it off. At least you will know why.

Good luck and don't take it too hard... there's a girl in the back of the class who is probably looking at you.

Answer 2

That sucks! I was dating a girl 9 months, and we were even talking about marriage! Then she simply decided that she loves me just like a friend, and we broke up. Now (2 months) i'm beginning to feel better but I was really on the bottom of the world.. Well, maybe this girl is just confused about her feelings (women often have this terrible feature), and she just needs a little more time to think if you guys should or not have something. Just give her a little more time! I know how you're feeling, but hold on. Try to use this "down" time to think about yourself, your manners; your life, in general. It's on these times that we face who we truly are and what we truly feel: it's when you start knowing a little more about yourself.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

well the thing about being a guy, is u Have to deal w/ rejection. even if ur HOTTTT! cuz there are girls who are gonna be afraid of messing w/ you, and getting hurt...and they may reject u in fear of being rejected. so, for WHATEVER Reasons, u have to learn how to deal w/ rejection in a Healthy way.

my advice, to Anyone..is to just keep working on urself to make sure u are Awesome. not in a cocky, selfish, conceited way..but in a Positive, Healthy, Good way...so that u know that u've done all u can to make sure you Look Good, Feel Good, and can help someone you are with Feel Good as well. the more practice u have in making yourself into a Great person, the better partner u will be for someone else! make sure u are a Great Son, Brother, Father, Friend, and Boyfriend... so that IF someone does reject you, it won't bother you one bit! u already know u are trying hard to be a great person, so the other person is missing out on getting to know you. (u can't really feel that way if u don't work on urself and make sure u are the best u can be). and, on the same token, u will be able to See and Filter Out anyone who just isn't good enough for you =T... why would u want someone who DOESN'T want to go out w/ you? u need to find people who WANT to be with you, and then filter out from there who is good enough to stay w/... who is going to be a Positive, Healthy, and Happy addition to your life. who u can grow with, and become Better people together..that's what u are looking for.... and when u feel great, u will want to be w/ someone who is great too, and u won't settle for anything less! :) good luck~

Answer 4

Dont dwell on it. I am positive that whatever you saw in her is present in other females as well. I know its cliche but there are other fish in the sea and you shouldnt spend your time dwelling on someone who couldnt see herself with you. Getting to know someone at that level right above a friendship is always a good feeling cuz you start getting your hopes up about what could be. Just live and learn and move on hun.
good luck

Answer 5

Some people are not strong enough to deal with rejection. I just block it out. I have a life to get on with. Hope you get an answer from someone that will help you.
Keep smiling ok?

Answer 6

Just cool down and don't worry about it too much she doesn't seem like such a good person to cancel a date 30 minutes ahead.

Answer 7

well my tip is this my friend it seems more her loss always remember that if your intentions are pure and your being real with her on how you feel and are willing to be a great man in her life and she all of a sudden has a change of mind about that whose loss is that, yours or hers, seriously. i dont know if you listen to alicia keys, her first cd there is a song number 2 and 3, 2 is about karma, my friend enough said, and 3 is saying if she is your girl i say that because there are women out there who love to meet a guy thats pure and true about his feelings keep your head up, my friend remember who you are and youll be fine

Answer 8

you have to move on.to tell yourself that she is not the only girl out there for you and that it was her loss in the end, not yours. you just take one day at a time and let time do the healing.i had to do that when i broke up up with my ex which now is my bf again and it was a rough time but i had friends who i could call at 2 am and cry my eyes out.tell yourself that maybe it was not all worth it.

Answer 9

Assume that the idiot who rejected you was intimidated by your greatness!
That girl is obviously not fit to date someone of your caliber.
Thankfully, she was smart enough to know this about herself, admit this fact to herself, and act accordingly.
Otherwise, you may have wasted weeks uncovering her personality flaws, that would be better spent searching for someone worthy of you!
Laugh it off, don't dwell on it. If she really didn't want to date you she shouldn't have played games. Hell, maybe she really did have to wash her cat!?
Good luck

Answer 10

Get your mind off of her, don't stew any more. Call a friend and go out, do things. Get your mind occupied. Your feelings will not be corresponded, even if she does get back to you don't go through the roller coster rides again. Stay neutral, don't expect.