My brother lives with me and my family. I overheard over the phone conversation between him and his friend on how much he wants to have sex with this one girl because she is so HOT! I just don't know what the best way to explain to him about waiting for sex and safe sex. I have ask my husband to talk to him about it, but my husband hesitated. What is the best way for me to approach my brother? Is it appropriate for me to talk to him about sex? if it is or not, then what is the appropriate way? He doesnt know that I know.
2006-09-05 08:34:01 · 12 answers · asked by Cava 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I forgot, I also overheard him saying to his friend that he did had a girl that they were gonna have sex. The girl ask if he have condom, but he didn't, so she turn him down. Good for her!
2006-09-05 08:51:06 · update #1
It's natural for boys that age. I'd worry if he wasn't trying to get laid.
Just tell him about the risks (pregnancy & STD) and give him condoms. Also, make sure he knows how to properly use them to reduce the risk of breakage.
Most of all, don't preach to or judge him, because he will tune out any good advice that you might have been able to share.
2006-09-05 08:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by jimvalentinojr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 16 year old boy wanting to have sex is not very shocking. If you talk to him straight up about it, he will probably blow you off but it won't hurt anyone and may end up getting through to his head (the one on top of his neck). Right now he will most likely communicate with the other head. Where are you guy's parents? He should already know the precautions of having sex.
You could also just casually bring it up in conversation.
2006-09-05 08:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the parents job. but if he lives with you under your roof then its your job, why your husband wont talk to him is beyond me, sex is a normal part of life,you need to teach him about being resposible for his actions of having sex. not the details of how to have sex there a books my sister used on called the joys of sex, my daugter used to ask me all kinds of questions about sex when she was 16 from stuff she heard at school, an i just told her if they were right or wrong. or told her to ask my wife if it was more the a basic question. i didnt go into any details, not with todays society, i was worried about what people would think if she went to school an said your wrong my dad told me this but just be open an honest with him its a hard time in a boys life, an make him feel like hes coming to you for answers not you going to him, theres a site called literotica.com where you can find stories about first time sex
2006-09-05 08:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by elltea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um its normal and there is nothing wrong with it. try handing him some condoms n telling him if he ever needs 2 talk ur door is always open. oh n when u hand him the condoms tell him the truth that having sex can be great but unless u want a disease or children its best 2 keep his jimmy covered.
2006-09-05 08:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think by you being his sister and his blood family. That you should be the one to talk to him about sex. Or your parents. Just sit him down and let him know that there is something that you have to talk to him about. Get some reading materals from your Dr. and some condoms.
2006-09-05 08:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by volcano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers have this crazy obsession about sex... And it's normal! Maybe you should not talk to him about that, he'll feel ashamed and he surely won't listen to you... Just let him do whatever he pleases. Besides, are you sure he's still virgin?
2006-09-05 08:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Syaoran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure he knows about safe sex..you cant stop him from having sex and he is probably not even ready he is just boasting to his friend.
2006-09-05 08:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 08:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You R the best consultant, but not in the presence of your man. Keep the good work between both of you!
Ciao..John-John.
2006-09-05 08:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly it is waste of time talkin to male about sex......we think like dogs....men see somebody hot or better lookin than their spouse they think about sex.....instincts
some women have no idea how horny most of the guys are
2006-09-05 08:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by leopoldo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋