I have been flirting with a female friend of my for sometime now but just today it has kinda stepped up a gear.
And now im actually thinking about how much i want this friend of mine as i dont see my girlfriend much and when we do sex is low on her list of things to do.
dont want to hurt my girl but i do seem to have a much higher sex drive then her.
2006-09-05 08:33:49 · 37 answers · asked by mack_flashing_teddy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont cheat on her you dikhead!!
just break up with her!!!
simple solution really
2006-09-05 08:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I´d just get the friend into the sack and take things from there. Two-timing is great; variety really is the spice of life.
It´s generally best to let one of the girls know; in this case it would have to be the friend, otherwise it gets too complex having to keep two sets of lies going.
Usually it´s possible to have a third girl as an occassional, but more than that becomes exhausting.
But make sure you don´t get too attached to either as eventually either your current girlfriend will notice or else your friend will tire of the situation.
Enjoy!
2006-09-05 09:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough, I hope you figure it out. I don't believe thinking about it is the same as doing it, but it sounds like you are well on your way to doing it, so...
I think that if you can't be honest with someone about something this important, then you don't really love them, and they don't really love you. If you are a good man, you'll tell your girlfriend how you are feeling, and see how she responds. She'll likely either hate you and end the relationship, or realize she needs to step it up if she wants to keep you around. Either way would be better than cheating on her, or continuing in doubt and guilt.
From my experience (married 7 years), differences in sex drive can be one of the worst things in a relationship. If you can't come to terms with each other's needs as far as sex goes, you'll be miserable.
A quick clean cut hurts much less than a prolonged messy one. Please please please leave before you cheat.
2006-09-05 08:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by beanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy in the relationship you should communicate with her, tell her that you want more sex, there may be something going on for her as to why she doesnt want sex.
But dont cheat on her, just think how guilty you will feel afterwards. At least end things in a adult manner than going around sneaking behind her back. Be a man not a coward.
2006-09-05 08:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by LadyDeville 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to talk to your girlfriend about how you truly feel because she is not a mind reader and may not realise that your sex drive is much higher and by having it out in the open may help to make the relationship a better one for both of you. to lose a girlfriend just because of the sexual aspects seems to be a real shame and you are still with her so that is surely something worth fighting for. hope it all works out for the best.
2006-09-05 08:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by missree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, have you told her "you'd like some more"? People aren't mind-readers.. Anyway, if you did and she doesn't care about it, then it may be a good idea to break it off with her, there's no sense in starting starving already;) Above all, highly advise against cheating on her, especially in this particular situation, your girlfriend is very likely to find out - one way or the other. No need to screw up her love life.
2006-09-05 08:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by miaNov 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to all the puritans above me! So what if you cheat. If your girlfriend doesn't know it wont hurt her and you'll either get the other one out of your system or discover your relationship is finished! Why cause your girl unnecessary pain by telling her right now!
At the moment your living a lie. So if you can't be true to others at least be true to yourself!
2006-09-05 09:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking of cheating is not bad; everybody fantasizes.
Cheating is bad.
Solution in 2 parts:
1. Make your gf your ex-gf.
2. Start a relationship with your friend.
IN THAT ORDER!
Oh, yeah, and a bit of advice: start figuring out how important sex is to you, and choose your future relationships accordingly. It's not fair to get into a committed relationship with someone and then cheat on her if she doesn't give it up enough. If you figure out she doesn't want it as much as you need it, and her other qualities aren't adequate to compensate for that lack, you owe it both to her and to yourself to end the relationship.
2006-09-05 08:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a bad thing, if you dont think much of your girlfriend and things arent going great sort them out or dump her, then you can take things further with your female friend without feelings of guilt, people will also not get hurt
2006-09-05 08:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by lizarddd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So then why not break up with her and find what you want ? Whats the point of having her as a gf ? And whenever you put yourself in situations of flirting your only opening the door for more to happen. If you dont want to hurt your girl then break up with her and dont be selfish.
2006-09-05 08:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meaby you need to stop for a minute and think if you really want to be with your girlfriend... Something is missing in your relationship and that is why you are looking elsewhere! Is not wrong and I am sure you are not doing this on purpose. However, you need to think before you can hurt someone (including yourself).
Meaby you attraction to this girl is only a temporary thing... If you love your girlfriend do not destroy her trust in you!
2006-09-05 08:39:13 · answer #11 · answered by Marmot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋