Eight years ago I was in a relationship with a guy. We were happy, I got pregnant, had child. Then he left, cheated, turned into a male SL*T. I met someone else and have spent the last eight years with him. I love this other man very much, we have built a great life together, had a child, started a business, bought a house in the suburbs, etc. But here's the problem: i have been bored with our relationship for a long while. We are best freinds but there is no spark. So a few months ago guy #! (who has always been around being a pretty good dad to my older son) approaches me about "US". This man is smokin sexy, and is totally crazy about me still. I think I was his "one who got away". I do not know what to do. I just want to be happy. But I do not know if it is worth it to give up all the great material things, to leave and start all over, taking the chance that I will be making a mistake.
2006-09-05 08:26:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because he's a good dad doesn't mean he is right for you... there are things you can do to make your relationship you are in now work. Try new things... after eight years spice and excitement is bound to go away so before you decide to leave everything you have make your sex life more exciting. try some thing you've heard of or seen and never done before.... do things with just the two of you. Your remember in the beginning all of the things you guys did together start doing that. go on dates, role play the options are endless.... but i wouldn't leave just because the guy you once where with says he thinks about you guys together... where was he when you where supposed to be together?
2006-09-05 08:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you looking for trouble??? Find a way to connect with your current beau. You have invested so much time, you have a child and a great life. You take responsibility and make your life FUN by doing the right thing and forget the first one.If he is sooo crazy about you...why is he a slut? I think deep down you know that he is still playing games..this time with you and your family. Try being honest with your main man...tell him you would like to fire things up between you again. You will regret throwing it all away for a few nights between the sheets if you manage to get that out of it.
2006-09-05 08:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by sassilass06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should think of the reasons why u left the first guy in the first place, he might only be after you again coz he sees how well off you are.
If theres no sparks with your new husband, why is there no sparks? is it his looks or is it because you both stopped trying?if you turely love him there wudnt be spark, talk to him about it maybe he feels the same way and wud like to work on it.
Just because this other guy is sexy and crazy about you is no reason to dump the new family and life you've made...screw that guy he cheated on u! and if hes able to do tht then he cant possibly love you as much as he claims to.
2006-09-05 08:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Keshoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, definitely. Your happiness should be the most important thing to you. If mama ain't happy, nobody's happy. Keep that in mind. Your kids will know if you're not satisfied in your relationship, and you have to set an example for them. If you raise them to think money/material items are more important, they'll have a hard time EVER finding true happiness. You know the difference in riches and love....which would you rather have/feel? What I've stated is my opinion, but I think that's what's wrong with the world today. Everyone's too consumed with working to have better than their neighbor, rather than joining hands and trying to make peace, love, and happiness! I could care less if I lived in a cardboard box, if I had love, that's all I need!
2006-09-05 08:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass always looks greener on the other side...don't do it. Work with the relationship you are in. If guy #1 was a dog before, do you want to take the chance that he'll do it again? And it sounds like you'd be sacrificing a pretty good relationship.
2006-09-05 08:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedSista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE THE FIRST GUY ALONE! Concentrate on making your husband as happy as u would this guy! Guy number one cheated on you and hurt u very deeply and he would only do this to u again! Who cares if he is sexy! He still sounds like a total jerk for treating u the way he did! DONT FALL FOR IT! Stay with your wonderful husband and spice it up with romance! He sounds like an awesome man and loves u very much! Dont risk losing love on a loser!
2006-09-05 08:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him once a cheat always a cheat talk to your mate you will and can find that spark again.
2006-09-05 08:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Carol W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the Beatles said, " Money can't buy you love". U need to just follow what your heart is telling u to do. and go with the one u love.
2006-09-05 09:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by crazy little thing called love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That a tough question....someone going to get hurt...anyway it go's
2006-09-05 08:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve already answered your own question....what do you want more ...love or money
2006-09-05 08:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Suzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋