his mom is very supportive email you answers please.
2006-09-05 08:25:45 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok well, if you're having sex...you got a problem...having sex with a minor is considered....illegal....
2006-09-05 08:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by yogurtsoju 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should both wait until you are married or at least until you feel financially and emotionally secure. At your respective ages, I feel that it will be extremely difficult to take care of a child, especially because you will soon be going through many more stages of your young lives. Attending college or working, for example, will wind up being secondary if you have a child, which is not a good thing if you want to be doing them. I don't know you at all, but traditionally speaking, you have at least a decade to grow before I think you should think about having a child. On the other hand, if you have given it a lot of thought and you really do want to have a baby, and your parents are for the idea as well, then it's up to you.
What do you think? It sounds to me like you want us to make the decision for you. If you have even an ounce of doubt or you're not too happy with the idea, then please don't just do it for your boyfriend. A good practice for you both might be to babysit a relative's child or volunteer at a daycare. It will be a real introduction into what having a baby will be like. Just give it a lot of thought, especially because a baby will definitely change your future plans, maybe even your goals.
2006-09-05 08:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you have been with him for 2 years, but you are too young. This may not be the answer you want, but I will tell you the truth. A baby requires not only physical care, but also lots of $$$$. You are young. You are just beginning your life. Wait a few years, even til you are 20. A baby is forever, you cannot return it for a refund.
T H I N K --- Talk to YOUR parents about it if before you decide. It's nice that his mom is supportive, but do include your mom/dad/whomever before you take this giant step.
2006-09-05 08:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you might have heard this but I believe that having a child so young will prevent you from living the life you are meant to I had children at a young age and had to drop all my plans to raise them. now I am wondering where to go to from here. Being with a guy for 2 years is good but having a child changes every thing you don't want to end up living in motel rooms or out of the car. (i did) having your mom support you is a great but do you want her to raise the child when you are in school. And with your boyfriend being 19 is he mature enough to handle the responsibility of a child. Having a child is a wonderful gift but it takes alot of time and energy. Don't through your life away before you have had a chance to experience it. Enjoy it because you are only young once.
2006-09-05 08:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by nuthouse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend told me that he wanted to have a baby when he was 16 and I was 19. We tried but I amreally thankful for the failed attempts. It isnt recommended because of your ages; you have too many things to try to accomplish before having a baby. Think about how much better it would be for your child for you to wait versus how close it COULD bring you and your boyfriend. I am 21 and pregnant now with the start of our family together and though I am happy to have a baby on the way, I still wish I finished school and had the chance to become financially stable enough to provide the best future for our son.
2006-09-05 08:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Monica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DO IT!!! You are way too young to think about having children. Get an education and go out and live your life first. Most of the time when you get involved with someone at so young an age it ends up not working out in the long run because you still have so much learning and changing to do. His mom should have her *** kicked for being so supportive of you having sex and babies at so young an age. I speak from experience about settling down at such a young age. Please think seriously about this. If he really loves you he will want to wait until you are matured and old enough to make this decision without any regrets.
2006-09-05 08:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not even sure how to answer this.... *shaking head*
With your whole life ahead of you... do you honestly think that at 16 you are old enough to have a BABY !!! Believe me when I say this from the bottom of my heart... do not, i repeat, do not have a baby now. You and your boyfriend have alot of growing to do emotionally before you would be ready to have a baby.
Go see a counselor with your boyfriend and talk about your feelings. Don't throw your life away... go to school and get an education. That is what is important.
Good Luck !!!
2006-09-05 08:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Katie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 years old is way to young for you to be having a baby. Enjoy your life and relationship before you decide to have a baby. Babies a very hard work, since you have been together for 2 years already I see no need to rush things. You have to finish growing up before you can have a baby. Talk to him and let him know, cause having a baby right now just might be the worst thing for you guys. Hope it all works out.
2006-09-05 08:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by grrrrme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering he could be put in jail for statutory rape...(weather your/his parents consent or not, until you're 18 or emancipated that's what it is considered). To be honest it would be a very stupid move on your part. Unless you're been told you have cervical cancer, HPV, or some other circumstance that makes it impossible for you to have kids unless you have them now...WAIT. At least wait until you're 18, at 18 you're an adult. Then it's your decision! It's your body, but you're not an adult yet! Get your education, wait it out, give yourself time to think...etc I was with my ex for 2 years when we "talked about it", we were together for 3 and a half years before he just up and dumped me. I am thankful I didn't have a child with him! Just because he is OLDER doesn't mean he is WISER!!! Don't get caught up in that loop...these young girls wanting to have kids. I don't advise it until you're 18 and you're an adult. School is much more important!!! You're still so young...you're going to want to go places, party, have fun, be a kid, etc! You can't do that if you have to worry about having mom babysit the baby, or find a babysitter. Diapers are expensive, clothing gets expensive, WASHING all those clothes, feeding the baby when it gets hungry, changing all those diapers, getting up everytime the baby gets up, etc etc etc. It's alot of work kid, enjoy being young while you still can. Please take it from me, take advantage of being a teenager! Don't grow up before you have it.
2006-09-05 09:08:29 · answer #9 · answered by ♡LiL♥Kitten♡ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To young, I have been there. My first girl friend was 15 when she got and I just turned 18. You may think it is the right time but it is not. Her parents illegally aborted the baby by paying the doctor to lie to her. We were together for 2 years after that and split up. Her decision. Don't have any children until you have finished school atleast. Now day's you need a college education to make money. You have plenty of time to have children and wait until marriage.
2006-09-05 08:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by YAHOO SUCKS ASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you going to support this child? I don't want to have to pay for it's upbringing. That's not my job. And, as for you, what about your education? Your own personal future? Run for your life from these people. You are too young to be having children. You aren't even finished with school. Ok, they're hot on the idea now, and you have the baby, then in 5 years, there's a problem and he's done with you. Where will you be then? No education, no good job, no means of proper support.--no thanks.
2006-09-05 08:32:07 · answer #11 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋