help me please, before i do something?

Question

im 15 years old and im in foster care im from ireland, moved here in may. i have been abused all my life by so many people. i have had a very hard life. rencently i got so close to one of my sisters. rencently we have been talking about killing yourselfs. i think its the best way out because i hate life and the only one i really love is my sister and if we both die we will be together. i really dont know what to do. i hate every min. of my life. what can i do? i want to die but dont know if its best. please help me before i do kill myself. what is the best way out of hating life

Answer 1

sweetie, i am so sorry that you have been abused. You don't deserve it--no one does. if there is problems in your current setting, confide in someone--your teacher, the police, a friend's parents, etc. Killing yourself is not the solution. Believe me, there is a reason you were placed on this earth. You need to ask for help and hang in there. Believe me, i was once in your shoes and i too felt suicide was the only option. i prayed to God and many many yrs later, i am happily married and have a beautiful daughter. This too will pass. I promise you. you can be such a powerful voice for other teens in your shoes and you will be their hero. I implore you to talk w/someone in school or call the National Suicide Hotline # @:1-866-210-3388--it is for teens. I would love to know how you are doing. God loves you and wants you to be ALIVE!

Answer 2

Hi, have you spoken to your social worker about your feelings, there are lots of agencies to help you which your social worker can access. I understand you feel very down and angry but try and use that anger by turning into something positive.How do you get on with your foster carers if you are not happy again speak to your social worker.If you feel the need to talk tonight call childline or contact your nearest police station they will put you in touch with the Emergency Duty Team who are social workers who work throughout the night and will help you. Do you have a Barnardo's worker,if not I recommend you contact them. They will give you councilling and try to help you move forward in your life.Dont suffer in silence.You are very valuable and important person and you do matter.You will be surprised how talking over issues does really help and you will then go from strength to strength. It wont happen overnight but you will get there if you use the support that is out there waiting for you to contact them.Please be strong I know it's hard but you can do it, please take my advice. The reason I am giving you this information and how I understand is because I work with young people who have suffered the same ordeal as you and they at one stage in there life have experienced the same feelings.One boy recently left our care and is planning on going to university,he to at one point was in despair .Dont give up more people than you think have faith in you look at the responses you have recieved, thats because we all care. Please phone someone up tonight Good Luck..

Answer 3

The others are giving good advice.

You are clearly unhappy, and shouldn't be.

If you are being abused where you are, talk to your social worker, Child-line, or NSPCC as soon as you can.

If you are unhappy because of previous treatment, do try to put it behind you. You can be strong. You will soon be independent, and you can make a whole new life for yourself,and for your sister. If she is younger than you are, you may be able to accept responsibility for her when you are 18. That seems a long way away now, but 3 years soon passes.

Don't do anything stupid - you are young and you can get over this.

Answer 4

I know that life has been hard for you and some times killing yourself seems like the answer because then you don't have to deal with the pain,but has much has there is pain there are also good things in life to look forward to, have you tried talking to someone how you feel it could be that you have got depression after all the things you have gone though.

Answer 5

I feel for you. I felt the same way when I was 15. But you're only 15, and you're life could change tomorrow.

I'm not saying it will, but soon, you're ARE going to have a way out, without having to kill yourself.

Soon you'll be at nobody's mercy, and you'll have the rights and to make decisions in your life for yourself and the responsibilities and joys (and sometimes heartache) that come along with that.

Please wait it out and give yourself a chance to set your own course. It won't always be like this. You can make it not always be like this. Allow yourself hope for just a little longer.

Answer 6

I really hope that this is not serious.

I'll continue as if it is.....

You and your sister are blessed with a loving relationship with one another. Be thankful for that and start making plans to get away from whatever/whomever it is that has been making life so awful for you.

Try and remember that life gets much much better when you make it that way yourself.

Get as much help as you can from social workers, councellors etc. Sometimes they don't seem like they understand or can help you but at least use them for your own benefit...they will be able to help you find new paths for you and your sister.

I wish you all the luck you need to find happiness and safety.

Ochsterboxter

Answer 7

hi dear
im am sorry to hear that u have cn only the bad side of live.i dont know u and dont know wat u are going throug but taking ure own life isnt going to solve enything a specialy not if u are a christian.i know live can be a real pig to people.but in 4years time u wil be able to start ure own live believe me its worth staying alive for.my live was hard and i never new my parent and had no education i was abused 1se.but live stil goes on today im 20 i have my own car a lovely caravan im renting and a lovely fiance and an even greater job working with disadled people

Answer 8

the answer is dont do it.
you wont solve your problems by running away from them. I work with young people like yourself that have been fostered/in care and have had the problems you have. Cos your in foster care there are people that can help you.

The first thing you need to do is tell someone exactly how you feel. Could you tell your foster carers/social worker or someone at school. If you find it hard speaking about how you feel then try writing it down.
UNLESS YOU TELL SOMEONE NO-ONE CAN HELP YOU BOTH.

There will be counsellors at school to help you or they could refer you to CAMHS (Child,adolescent mental health service)

The positive thing is you have your sister to help and she can help you. You have someone who knows what your going through.

Ive had similar experiencs to you and trust me whenI say killing yourself isn't the way.
I'm sure your both beautiful people inside you just need to deal with your problems then you and your sister can enjoy life together.

Keep your chin up and try and work through it :)

Answer 9

dont be doing nothing silly i was in the same situation i felt no one wanted me or loved me life will get better for you just give it a chance please you have your whole life ahead of you im 28 now and got children and im happy please dont give up hope your life will change find the things you love doing the most write a book go to college do something u want to do dont let your past win stand tall put your chin up and try and live your life suicide hun is not the answer tell your sister the same hope you both find happiness

Answer 10

Don't do that...
Don't waste God gift. Life is valuable. You are in bad side of life now but may be your future is bright, who knows? Wait for sometime, there must be big lucks waiting for you. We all have bad moments in our life, just try to avoid it and look at other side of life. how fun it is. Don't waste your precious life coz of those people who abused you. Try to fight back. Call or visit NSPCC website. This would definitely help you. But plz don't commit anything serious.