Ok im a 21 year old gay guy and I have a bit of a problem. When i was at school i fell for this guy big time , we flirted back and forth and he told me that he had feelings for guys . It was cool then cos he left to go to college , when he got back we all went out and he then told me he was bisexual . This is when i started thinking about him a lot . He asked for my phone number and stuff and i though he liked me to . I told him i liked him and he didnt respond . After this he contacted me to say he had a boyfriend . . . . that hurt a lot . I told him im happy for him , and also said i cant talk to him about it cos i still really like him . But he keeps doing it and i dont want to be a bad person . I really need help with this cos its screwing up my life.
2006-09-05 08:15:33 · 12 answers · asked by alex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like you have real feelings for him....i have been in this same situation when i fell for somone.To be honest you can't make someone like you to be honest i think he is stringing you along if he had true honest feeling for you he would have said by now try to get on with your life without him ,You sound like a lovely man and i know someone out there will be your perfect partner.cheer up dont let things get you down.
if you want to talk here is my email
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2006-09-05 08:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had precisely the comparable undertaking! What I did is, nonetheless think of approximately him whenever you like even with the actuality that attempt and talk approximately limiting those ideas to interrupt or lunch (make the ideas rather exagerated to make up for the cases once you have been in training).. additionally attempt to become rather!!! good friends with this guy because of the fact then you definitely will discover out in case you rather love him and you will see him in a completeley distinctive gentle... turning out to be good friends can come across a thank you to step decrease back and look at him as a 'guy or woman' somewhat than a 'guy you fancy', you should discover flaws or behavior you do unlike and so twist those on your benefit and each time you start to think of approximately him in training think of of that one disgusting habit he has! That particular will placed you off!
2016-09-30 09:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know...I'm straight, but it doesn't really matter when it comes to affairs of the heart.
Look - some people play fair, others play games.
Sounds like this dude is a player of games...and if you like being toyed with, fine...but it sounds as if you are looking for some stability in your relationships.
My advice: dump him and find a steady.
I don't know too much about the world of alternative lifestyles, but I know people...and there are plenty of good people (straight, homosexual, bi-sexual, etc...) out there.
2006-09-05 08:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could have being telling you he has a boyfriend for a number of reason. for example maybe hes a dick trying to make you unhappy. or he wants you try and go after him now coz he is 'unattainable' and he sees this flirting as a turn on. go on a night out with him and get him semi-drunk, then see how far you can go with him. but make sure he has drunk enough to feel easy but not so much that he says any action was coz he was drunk. you never know what will happen so take a risk and go for it, his boyfriend could be imaginary and it could be worth you while to try.
2006-09-05 09:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the very statement that you told him you liked him yet he didn't respond, i can verify he didn't have feelings for you. He might just be foolin around
do some diversional activities.. preoccupy your mind so you'd forget him... do things you're good at... prove to him that your life does not screw even if he's not part of it. blot him out of existence...
time does not heal the wounds...
eating protein and vitamin C-rich food will suffice... I mean, it's what you do during this time that heals :>
2006-09-05 08:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by gremLin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait. Wait until he doesn't have a boyfriend, and then ask again. If he says no, forget him. He's not interested. Don't worry you'll get over it. Really. I talk from experience. There are plenty of great guys just waiting for you to drop into their lives--go start!
2006-09-05 08:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him for a while to really let him know that you are uncomfortable with the situation and that he's hurting you. If he likes you enough, he will realise this and then you may be able to sort things out.
2006-09-05 08:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dragon Empress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
distance yourself from him, it's the only way you'll get over him. That means don't reply to texts or calls etc.......maybe when he's single something will happen between you two, but for now it is probably better to stay chilled, before you start stressing over it
2006-09-05 08:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by lil_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi mate, it sounds like this guy is a fan of attention...... i would say that he is not interested in you in a romantic way......i wouldn't touch him with yours!! find yourself someone who wants you as much as you want them...am a great beleiver in the old sayings "plenty more fish in the sea" and "time heals"...i wish you well fella XXX
2006-09-05 08:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by The Banshee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! He's taken and just playing with you.
2006-09-05 08:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋