I'm in a 3+ year relationship with my bf and I'm very much in love with him. I'm very faithful and I don't look at other men or anything like that at all. Usually, he doesn't call me to talk or anything. I call him. We don't have the conversations that we used to, but I understand it's because we see each other almost (if not) everyday. Recently, I moved and he never called me. And when I call him, he's not paying attention to me so we don't talk much. When I go to see him, he's playing his videogame and I just fell asleep waiting for him to finish. When I woke up, I had to go. There are things I don't like, like when he's lookin checkin out other girls, but it's what men do, ok. He's also lazy and doesn't have a job. He's so pessimistic about me sometimes (mostly about my decisions.) When I got a kitten a few days ago, he said that I wouldn't be able to take care of it and we argued.
Is it bad for me to start likin his best firend? I don't believe in going out with bf's bff..
2006-09-05 08:13:22 · 10 answers · asked by mekkimaru 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel guilty for having even a slight feeling for his best friend. He's a very nice guy, he pays for me and gives me rides all the time. he says that it's cuz I'm a girl, Isn't that nice of him?
But that's not what I'm mainly talkin about. I just don't know what to do with my bf. I just thought maybe I should wait it out?
2006-09-05 08:19:20 · update #1
one more thing...back then, we would do it in his room/hangout area in the basement. now he doesn't want to because he said that he's scared that we would get caught. but we do it in his room (next to his parent's room) at night when everyone's asleep! It's not like the sex isn't good...it's great! ...*sigh*
I'm 21 btw.
2006-09-05 08:30:32 · update #2
It's time to put all your good energy in someone more worthy. Too many bells and whistles going off here. I know many people who ditch the bad in their relationship's and went out with their friends, family, or coworkers and had very successful relationship's. You deserve it too.
2006-09-05 08:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, resolve your connection to this Prince charming! Doesn't sound like a catch to me. It is apparent that you two are not on the same page. For goodness sake, he doesn't have a job and he's criticizing you? How old is he that he's so engrossed in his video games? You may decide that you deserve to be with an adult one of these days. And by the way, what is the friend like? Be objective about these things--not just be motivated by looks and personality. Remember actions count!
2006-09-05 08:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's not holding up his end of the deal, so to speak. Do you really want to be the one doing all the work? Making all the calls, earning all the money?
I would cut your losses and move on. But not to his best friend. Losers like that travel in packs, and you want a higher quality of guy for the next time around.
2006-09-05 08:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Marion K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa girl
did you read what you just wrote: "I am very much in love....Is it bad for me to start likin his best friend?"
Those two statements don't go together. If you are very much in love the thought of "likin" his best friend shouldn't enter your mind. If you are over the whole relationship than you aren't "very much in love"
I suggest you take some time apart, maybe a month, and don't hook up with anybody during that time. If you are very much in love, you will know it; if you are ready to start dating his best friend, you'll know you weren't THAT in love.
BTW - if his best friend is really a friend, he won't touch you.
2006-09-05 08:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 35 it sounds like your really young so heres my question, why are you in a relationship? you should be going to school and defineing who you are, get out into the world date alot of men and get it all out of your system, then when you hit 28 29 yrs old then think of settling down, im telling you right now guys at a young age just want one thing and women for that matter so go play dont
get tied down and there will be no drama, and as far as this guy goes dump him he sounds like a real looser, and thats a whole other conversation why do women like men who treat them like crap,,,
2006-09-05 08:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by brandonsgix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart maybe try talking to him,see how that goes. Tell him how you feel. As far as the best friend goes i would't sugest that, but follow your heart and do what you think is best for you not anyone else. Good luck
2006-09-05 08:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is either loosing or lost his interest in you. You should try talking to him and letting him know how you feel. If he loves you and would like to bring back the fire in the relationship he will try to change, if not he will blow you off like he is not doing anything wrong and will keep doing it
2006-09-05 08:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by EsYoDaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the issue that you're not happy in your relationship or is the issue that you want to date his best friend? Once I know that, I can answer more clearly.
2006-09-05 08:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Brooks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are done with this guy and should be. No you shouldn't mess with the friend but there are lots of guys out there that aren't his friends...find one.
2006-09-05 08:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like my boyfriend and all I've heard is " dump him dump him dump him" you deserve better. and sure, go for his friend. I don't see the problem if he's being a dink.
2006-09-05 08:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by tem_in_a_box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋