ive never been in a serious relationship and cant help but wonder if i ever will any advice??
2006-09-05 07:54:22 · 23 answers · asked by sweet18apparatus 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi kristy. I saw your question and my heart went out to you because I used to feel this way. I was so scared. I thought no one would ever care for me and that I would end my days surrounded by a bunch of cats, just a lonely old lady. But then something wonderful happened. I found someone who told me that I was beautiful and precious and cherished. I want to offer you that same gift. You are a beautiful, precious person, kristy, and I know in my heart that the right person to cherish you is just around the corner. So never worry and never fear. Love is in your future and happiness will be your reward for all of these lonely days. I am sure of it!
2006-09-05 07:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are, I guess. I know several people who feel the same as you, but if you keep that attitude, you'll stay lonely. You must first love yourself and everything about you before anyone else can love you. I don't mind being alone, it's nice once in a while. I don't even care if I were alone forever. If that's what God has planned for me, then so be it. I can't dwell on what I don't have in life, I only feel blessed with the things I do and appreciate them. Seize the day! Live everyday as if it's your last instead of thinking the worst case scenario ALL the time. Keep your head up! There's someone for everyone...patience is a virtue.
2006-09-05 15:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, no one wants to be alone and certaintly not forever. But the advice I can give to you is that if you have those desires within you to have a relationship, get married, and have a family - you won't be alone. Eventually you will get married. Outside of the waiting period, go out meet some people at a singles group, join a dating service, go to singles church activities and so forth. When you take a step out in faith (sometimes that is a challenge) into an activity or group that suits you, you will meet someone. Develop some strong relationships before making a commitment. But I don't think you were made to be alone especially if your heart really does not want to be alone!
2006-09-05 15:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by wonderwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will eventually find someone for you but you can be in a marriage and a relationship and still feel alone or lonelyif your mate isn't compatible or of the same ideals as you.
Being alone sometimes ain't a bad thing if it brings you a peace of mind. No one can make you not feel that your not alone in this world, you have to have enough self esteem to always feel your important in this life whether with or without someone and what you can expect someone to do is come into your life to bring it a form of peace and happiness of being in a relationship with someone you want to love and be with and maybe spend the rest of your life with if that person meet your ideals.
If you meet someone who is uncaring unloving and disrespectful you can be in a relationship and still be lonely or feel alone.
I suggest you channel your energy into doing hobbies or other things that make you happy so you wouldn't feel you have to have a relationship or you will be alone forever.
2006-09-05 15:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being a little dramatic wouldn't you say ? I totally can see having heartache at your age but worrying about being alone forever ? Its best you dont have any serious relationships until your a little older. Most kids waste their time with that stuff. I did.
2006-09-05 15:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was attracted to your question's title, because I have that fear too. I am afraid that by the time I finish college, if I don't find a guy by then, there's no more hope left. My only advice is, just keep doing the things you love, such as social clubs or something. Perhaps you'll find a guy with the same interests that way.
2006-09-05 14:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥<ŦĦØΛ>♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to be with 'someone'. But I never thought it was end-all and be-all of existence.
I was 'alone' for a long while. What sustained me was my sisters my brother and their kids, my friends and their kids. I have close relationships with friends and family which made feel whole.
Of course there'd be times when i'd look at their families and feel jealous about what they had. But, without asking, I was always reassured that I was the best brother, best friend, best uncle.
As long as your life isn't void of interaction or love, you'll ought to do just fine.
2006-09-05 15:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by endrshadow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid of being alone forever. If it wasn't for my cats I would go crazy! At least you get advice-- all I get is a full litter box!
Thanks-- now I'm bumbed! :(
Have a great day!!!
2006-09-05 14:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being w/out a mate does not mean being alone forever. And being with a mate does not mean you are not alone. It is your choice! Either way, live Life!
2006-09-05 14:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it one day at a time , i do , i would help but i know that you wouldn't go with me, but you say you are alone why do girls do that
2006-09-05 15:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by powernewfie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋