Okay i really like this guy and he is 4 years older than me and when your still in school four years is alot. Well we were hanging out one day intill like 5:00 in the morning with all of our friends and all of a sudden we made out.I was a little shocked because i really didnt know him all that well bc he was older then me and i see him every once in a a while at school. He told me i was good lookin and everything. I now talk to him sometimes on the computer and i almost feel like i am in love with him only after one night!!! i really need help on either i should say to myself i'll never have a chance or tell him how i feel and make a fool out of myself..PLEASE HELPPP!!!
2006-09-05 07:50:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you don't mind my asking, how young are you by the way?
we have a same situation here. I'm 20 and the guy I'm referring to is 24. I'm graduating next year. I told my friends about him and they said he's too old for me.
Like you, i really didn't know him that well because he was older than me. But unlike you, i don't see him more often because he's now working someplace else.
He also told me he liked me and admired me and would often call me on the phone to ask me if I'm exhausted or tired because i have been running around his mind all day... and stuffs like that.
I've known him for several months now. But i still want to get to know him more. I can't really say I'm in love with him already because love develops over a long time. I don't believe in love at first sight because that's just infatuation.
There are several ways to tell if it's love or just mere infatuation.
Love is a deep emotion that binds a long process of courtship, together with lots of admiration, infatuation and different mixtures of emotions. Infatuation only includes crush and simple admiration of your partner. Love is definitely different from infatuation. Don't get mix up! You can have a huge crush on someone but that doesn't mean you love him/her and you don't necessarily need her/him. But if you love him/her, you yearn to possess that person and you wish her/him to be yours.
Love has no unrealistic expectations. If you've seen both the best and worst of someone, then you can decide whether or not you love them. Infatuation is blind to the flaws of the person who is its object, chooses to ignore those flaws even if they're deal-breakers, which can result in rude awakenings when the infatuation phase fades out.
So please be careful with your heart...
Heed my advice... :>
2006-09-05 08:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by gremLin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it doesn't sound like love.
It sounds like you are infatuated with him or have a little crush.
You dint really even know this guy and not to be rude but if he is 4 years older he was probably just saying those nice things to get in your pants. Guys have a way of doing that.
Good Luck
2006-09-05 14:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
versions of love remember that, i believe you can like something about a person, or certain things they do, something they always tell you, or how they smell, what exactly is love sweetheart is it one feeling, is it one emotion, no, its many feelings, many emotions. my advice to you is this sweetheart you shouldnt tell him you love him for you are then putting all those emotions, to love, care, and truly know that person feels the same way in one. take your time take these feelings of love and cherish them, and they will develop in something beautiful, if its wanted by both
2006-09-05 14:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by The LuvDoctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a chance and see how it ends up becuz if you don't you'll always be wondering what if and be carefull cuz he older and can just be looking for sex so guard your heart if it works out and think before u let it go
2006-09-05 14:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy now killer, try talkin to the guy and gettin to know him
2006-09-05 14:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by poot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋